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  1. Daeme

    About INFJ and INTJ dynamics

    Hi all. I'm Europian F in my 30's. I'm INFJ, tested several times. My SO is M, my best friend is F, both several times tested as INTJs. I have been with my SO for 5 years, known my bf for 10 years. To put it shortly; during the pandemic and other massive things happening in my life, I have...
  2. 2

    Where can I find ESTPs?!

    I've been searching for ESTP-INFJ relationships online and reading stories from those who are INFJ/ESTP and it feels like reading fanfic lol Which comes to the question, where can I find an ESTP and how do I snag one?! However, I'm currently talking to one online but just want to find one irl.
  3. PapillonT

    Enneagram IV and Attachment

    In my research on the Enneagram, I've paused on the instinctual variant sub-types - in particular, I'm curious about possible correlation between this kind of typing and behaviour in close relationships. Besides the two tests, please feel free to share your own conclusions on this. I've seen...
  4. Le Miroir

    [INFJ] INFJ’s are cheaters?

    Hello everyone sometime ago a guy told me these words “INFJ’s say they can never cheat and will never but in actuality they do cheat.” I was surprised hearing this because as a INFJ I would say I WOUND NEVER EVER CHEAT on someone but that means I play part of his words lmaoo. so I asked him why...
  5. josevi

    [INFJ] Trying to understand an INFJ post-breakup

    SORRY FOR THE LONG TEXT, BUT I HAD TO GIVE YOU AS MANY DETAILS AS I COULD! Hello, it has been around 2 weeks since me (ENTJ 23M) and my ex (INFJ 19F) broke up. She was the one who decided breakup. Basically the reason was that we started to detach from each other. At the beginning of February...
  6. CuriousB

    [INFJ] How to get others to understand infj complexities

    Hi fellow infjs I'm new here and I can't sleep and I have some qs lol As an infj (at least for me and from what I've read about the type) it seems many of us don't feel understood and the greatest thing to achieve in a romantic relationship (or even friends & family) is that understanding. For...
  7. S

    My Greatest Fear: Love

    Hello to all. tbh this is just going to be a bit of a vent: a thought dump if you will. Basically, the greatest fear that I have identified thus far is my fear of love. I am afraid of being in a romantic relationship more than probably anything. Being a bit of a psychology nerd I find this fact...
  8. wiredandwound

    How does the Innovation of Old Ideas Occur?

    I have mentioned various things from mundane personal feelings, science, and philosophical opinions. I appreciate that we all have various levels of experience and practice that are unique to us. I see all to often that someone's point of view is "written-off", without question - in which I am...
  9. D

    [INFJ] How to stop being anxious in relationships?

    How do I stop feeling anxious in a relationship? I constantly feel on edge or worried. I don't want to burden my partner with my problems so I struggle with being open about my true thoughts and feelings (I always eventually do). Also, I worry too much about their feelings being genuine although...
  10. Fallible

    I need help breaking down the wall surrounding my soul

    It has been almost a year since I started living alone in my own apartment after having lived with my parents since I was born. I recently turned 22, working a full time job that I don’t like. The plan was to spend all of my free time working on my passion and eventually get a job in that field...
  11. L

    What's going on with him?

    This man, who is my therapist, had said something to me that made me feel uncertain about how he views me. I had told him once that I liked him as a therapist. Right after I had made that comment, he told me that he was glad that I had said that and that I’ve always been his favorite client...
  12. MB88

    Do INFJs stay single longer than other personality types?

    I recently turned 31, and I'm single. Other than a somewhat toxic long-distance relationship I just got out of, in the past few years, I've really barely dated at all after ending a 6-year relationship back in 2013. I don't have a huge problem with that, as I would rather remain single than...
  13. TheFool

    [INFJ] Loosing yourself in a relationship

    Hi my fellow INFJs! I would like to know how you prevent loosing yourself in a relationship? INFJs want to create harmony and we often sacrifice ourselves in relationships to meet the expectations and preferences of our partners. I have noticed that this is my way to show appreciation and...
  14. Kabss

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  15. neow

    [ISFJ] Why is ISFJ male switching between cold/distant and friendly?

    Hi! I realised my first post was way too long but I haven't been able to delete (it's been less than 24 hrs so I thought I would be able to) >_< Why is he recently switching between cold/distant and friendly towards me? I'm a female ISFJ and I have known this INFJ for 2 years now. We both...
  16. neow

    [ISFJ] Confused by INFJ's mixed? signals

    Hi! I've been lurking on this forum a few times but I decided to join ^_^ I'm a female ISFJ and I have known this INFJ for 2 years now. We both study the same thing but he's 2.5 years younger than me if that's relevant :p We've also both never actually been in a relationship. I'm usually more...
  17. Triedandtrue

    Help! Getting her back

    I am an enfp 33 male that broke up with my 30 female infj due to long distance where we dated 2.5 years completely long distance except for the first month. It has been 10 months since the break up which blindsided her. Can I get her back? I was her first love, kiss, relationship and she...
  18. Triedandtrue

    Losing the love of my life

    Hey guys I'm a 33 year old enfp male who was dating a infj who was the love of my life. I have been searching everywhere in order to find an answer to get her back So this is our story we met in California in the spring of 2014 and we hit it off immediately. She had never dated anyone before...
  19. OliOliOxenFree

    What struggles do you face when trying to get to know someone?

    Hey Guys! Was curious as to what kind of challenges you all go through in your struggle to find a relationship or even just friends? This can be anything small or big. For me, its the fact that I absolutely detest small talk and try to do my best to connect with an individual on a personal...
  20. rmoat

    [INFJ] Making friends as an INFJ

    I wanted to start a conversation about INFJs making friends with others. Before I fully knew my MBTI type, it would always frustrate me when there was this group of friends, and I really only could connect with one but not the majority of the group. The one friend that I did connect with would...
  21. S

    [INFJ] Mixed Signals from Male INFJ

    Hello everyone! I am a shy female INFJ. I have this friend who is an INFJ and I've known him for about 4 years now. We have always hung out casually as we are part of the same friend group. Even if this might seem a bit ridiculous, I have had a crush on him 3 times. He is quite a reserved INFJ...
  22. D

    INFJ friendship vs relationship

    Hey INFJs, I have an INFJ male friend and was wondering if there is any way to tell if he is interested in me romantically or not? Lately, he's been initiating the two of us hanging out, (for the past month or two its been once or twice a week typically, but he's not the kind of guy that has...
  23. S

    Significant Others & Their Exes

    Is it incredibly odd for a significant other to continue an in depth relationship with his ex girlfriend's family? And does it allow for them to emotionally (whether subconsciously or consciously) create room for the new relationship?
  24. INFJ_katy

    Too Nice?

    Has anyone ever wanted to break up with a significant other, but you're just too nice to do it? You put their happiness before yours, and you just carry this burden around with you because you'd rather feel uneasy than disrupt their lives? I've honestly been going through this kind of situation...
  25. B

    Just another INFJ/ISTP situation

    Hi, I'd love some advice about this ISTP i've known for almost a year now. We were dating for about a month and a half when we first met and he ended things abruptly because he had just gotten out of a relationship and said he wasn't emotionally available. A couple of months later, he came...
  26. Bellosome

    [INFJ] long distance

  27. PintoBean

    Your Bathroom/Your Relationship

    How comfortable are you sharing a bathroom with your significant other? Do you never share bathrooms at all? Is it sanctum santorum? Do you pee in front of your partner? Would you even consider pooing in front of your partner?
  28. Asa

    Maintaining Healthy Relationships With Extroverts

    I'm curious about how other introverts maintain healthy relationships with extroverts. Extroverts and introverts often have different expectations for friendships and relationships, and find different behaviors offensive or disrespectful. Is it easy for you to maintain relationships (of...
  29. D

    [INFJ] Some reflections on my relationship with my ESFP SO (and questions/advice?)

    Hi all... Just joined to post this. Essentially I have been looking for some general relationship advice and I thought some advice from fellow INFJs would be a good place to start... Sorry if this is long. If you want the TLDR version, basically I have broken up with my ESFP partner of 4...
  30. D

    [INFJ] Some reflections on my relationship with my ESFP SO (and questions/advice?)

    Hi all... Just joined to post this. Essentially I have been looking for some general relationship advice and I thought some advice from fellow INFJs would be a good place to start... Sorry if this is long. If you want the TLDR version, basically I have broken up with my ESFP partner of 4...