[INFJ] Mixed Signals from Male INFJ

As an INFJ male, I tend to be very cautious and I do a lot of observation and discrimination before I make the next move. I often approach things and people in much the same way, and tend to be drawn most to those who are also pragmatic and careful.

This kind of reticence should not be confused with shyness or insecurity.

I can tell you that I best responded to subtle cues from a woman in the beginning, one who was attentive and discriminating, and who was being genuine and not toying with me or my feelings.

It was an extended process, but someone who had a serious interest in me would stick it through. In my relationship, it was this constant back and forth of watching for cues and carefully putting things out, and perhaps occasionally being mildly bold.

What will end this for me is someone who simply does not get it, is dishonest, overly aggressive, ingenuine, and looking to use me. I will discover this soon enough. You may not get the INFJ door slam, but it will certainly close.

 

@ShyINFJ it sounds like your both shy! Maybe you should talk to him about your feelings, however cautiously or subtlety - test the water and see what the response is. At least he'll know then how you feel and you may get a positive response back, or if not, maybe still the chance to be friends. With two shy people someone's got to make the move, you could be underestimating how much he likes you as well. In any case what ever the outcome, at least your more likely to know....and if it really is a case of mixed signals and this goes on after your conversation, it may be easier to call it out if you continue not knowing where you stand.