Do you think INFJs are clingy?
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I know i tend to be clingy.. i like to have my space as much as the next guy.. but often times im pretty laid back and like to spend time with those few people I give my attention and admiration too.. i don't see anything wrong with that.. but others find it annoying....it's like they think i depend on them to live or something...i just want to spend time and be with them.
I think I am getting clingy with my ex bf. We aren't dating. But we are getting close. It feels wonderful to be near and with him. Waking up to cuddles is so blissful. But I have been trying to keep it down a bit.
Once I open up to a person (which takes a long time to achieve) I tend to become "clingy" unintentionally, as in a sense I like to talk to them a lot. Scares some people off because they had never realized before how much I had to say
Too true. The worst part, for me that is, is that I'll talk too much about my own interests.
I was thinking about this thread a bit as I have had waves of pretty strong loneliness since my SO is away for a couple months for work. I have had clingy feelings, but don't act on them that often. I think I seem more clingy from my own perspective than from someone else's. I wonder to what extent this is true for other INFJs. When compared to the average population, I think I would definitely seem less clingy than the average person, but maybe not have the full-fledged autonomy thing going on like the I-T- personalities. I do get moments of loneliness and insecurity in my life and it crosses my mind to act on these, but I don't often because being an intrusion or unwanted company is pretty nearly my worst nightmare.
I hear you, I almost feel guilty when I think back to it because I can make the conversations so centered on myself (but at the time I am completely oblivious to it)
This describes me to a T. On the outside, I can be one of the most playful and charming people around, but on the inside I strongly desire a romantic connection. This is where the more Introverted part of my INFJ personality comes in and I am almost afraid to tell people how I feel for fear of loss. I sometimes wait until it blows over to say how I feel if I'm feeling afraid.
Hm-hm-hrrmm.. I think it's a little more complicated. It's more like the INFJ can turn other people clingy about them. (the effect works on most types, not only ENFPs)
On a chess table, I imagine the INFJ as a static figure, that won't ever move, but could pull other figures into its limited area of influence. However, within this area, this figure has enormous psychic power, and can do almost anything with its enemies or friends.
I wouldn't call that type of functionality clingy. More like magnetism.
On a chess table, I imagine the INFJ as a static figure, that won't ever move, but could pull other figures into its limited area of influence. However, within this area, this figure has enormous psychic power, and can do almost anything with its enemies or friends.
I wouldn't call that type of functionality clingy. More like magnetism.
I think if we can find someone we connect with, then yes, we get overly excited at the chance for some meaningful relationship.
On the other hand, if we are "mauled" we may never want to see your face again (even though it's permanently etched into our heads).
On the other hand, if we are "mauled" we may never want to see your face again (even though it's permanently etched into our heads).
Yep. Pretty much the same. And I really hate that I am. It's a major weakness for me. I think I give others too much credit and control over my person and emotions because of my tendency to get very easily attached if I connect with or am interested in them. Then, this gives them room to manipulate and take advantage. Wish I was a stronger person. And because they're the one to break off the friendship, I consistently experience fear of rejection or abandonment because of my fear that I'll exude that clingy nature. So, yeah. For some, clingy may be considered a cute or quirky quality, but not in my case.
Me too, if I get to the 'getting to know you' phase because I hardly get interested in interacting with someone.
