Do you think INFJs are clingy?

You mean you have an INFJ sister

 

noo, she's definitely N, she's too awesome.

 

i don't know any other INFJs, but as for myself i actually have a tendency to be overly detached yet loyal at heart

 

This is partly true for me. I can go anywhere between being too clingy to detached depending on how I feel.

 

I've been told I'm clingy . . .

and for some reason it really offends me and then I go out of my way to argue that I'm not.


I'm not sure why, because it isn't necessarily a bad thing . . . is it?

 

I'm clingy on the inside, cold on the outside.

 

Yeah its one of the things I concern myself with. I try my hardest not to be clingy however I've noticed that I do have this potential.

 

Indeed.

 

True of me too. Not cold on the outside so much as not SERIOUS on the outside. It's more like Cyrano De Bergerac. I'll be playful and light and made of win, but on the inside I'm utterly consumed with longing. I'd write you sonnets and make my heart a beautiful paradise to delight your every whim... And I would never tell you until it was all over with...

So I *could* be clingy... but I'm too afraid to be... I guess.

 

I suppose at the 'getting to know you' phase of a friendship I can be fasinated and clingy but after I understand that person interest pretty much fizzles out.

 

Depending on the situation I can be very clingy. I have a hard time during break ups. I am learning quickly though. In friendships I learned at an early age not to follow the same really interesting person around with out saying anything because they will make fun of you.

 

The metaphor for me would be an egg: hard, smooth and impenetratable on the outside, and liquid, gooey and sticky (clingy) on the inside.
I am a devout and incurable Romantic Idealist.

As John Keats wrote: "Love is my religion - I could die for it."

 

SAME. i'm most attached to a particular someone when i'm alone or when they are not present. i tend not to express the depth of emotion i experience when they are actually around and instead reveal it in small doses. i do this in part because it usually takes awhile for me to be definite enough that the person is really who i intuit them to be as i've had past experiences where my intuition led me to empower my own ego rather than build a fulfilling true relationship. as with family, it's almost impossible for me to express any bold emotion at all.

 

I'm not overly clingy. I am loving, loyal and require a certain amount of attention, which often times people don't comply with.

 

I think I'm clingy. I don't know about anyone else.

 

Yup, I am the same way for the post part. I have found that if I feel a strong drawing towards someone in particular, then I will become sort of obsessed with them, and could become clingly. I hate that in myself though, so if I see it I try to restrict it.

 

I am a desperate, terribly clingy person that fears being left more than almost anything.

But, I'm good at hiding that. I've learned how to make that hard to see, and fortunately it hasn't be noticed quite yet.

 

When I was in grade 6, I had this friend who was an ENTP -- we got along awesomely but I can recall feeling pangs of jealousy if he didnt want to spend time with me and decided to spend time with other friends instead. Of course among all his friends I was still his best one because we were the only ones who did lots of N stuff together.

I also recall this one time 2 years ago I became interested in an INFx woman, she was generally a poor-me type and I came to visit her one day and we walked to the park and sat on the swingsets and talked about various things, I was in good spirits at the time and wanted to listen to her and help her because she was interesting -- we went back to her place and talked about various things including god and came to somewhat a rather heated disagreement although I still tried to learn her perspective and still liked her. I tried to get her to go on a date with me and she stated she was on her way soon but she ended up standing me up and when I called she said something like she was too shy to come, I was really disappointed to the point of being hurt. I tried to arrange meetups with her twice and she seemed to have some kind of excuse and because I felt like something was wrong with me when she would not come with me I eventually dropped her cold. I asked her why she did not want to ever come to any event I set up, and she could be as brutally honest as possible and she said she didnt know -- so with grim finality I told her that it was fine, I was never going to contact her again -- she called once for me months later but i completely cut her out of my life and would not return her call. This is how I know I might be clingy when the situation comes up, because I attach too much emotional value to the person who I'm interested in. I generally avoid any situation which may become a romantic one although part of me wants it, because I don't want to be 1) Played for a chump, or 2) Rejected at some point -- because rejection hurts when you pin your hopes on your plans working out.