I know we can be very reserved, but how do we communicate with those we are close to? Are you very open and honest? Are you equally comfortable giving feedback and listening/observing? What kinds of things are you not willing to hear or share?
+1I think I tend to send out subtle hints as a way of communicating thinking everyone will just get it, since I feel I would easily pick up on them myself if it were the other way around.
Then I get frustrated when they aren't being picked up on and I shut down and internalize my thoughts and feelings.
I also don't always like talking while in public if others are to close nearby. I can be a very quiet dinner partner at a restaurant if I feel I will have to reveal too much about myself to strangers nearby.
But I am all ears. Feel free to ramble on and on. Please! It takes the pressure off of me.
I don't know, hard for me to explain without subtle, vague, non verbal hints.:behindsofa:
With years I have tendency to talk less about myself. Just with the one I love I do that. I don't have need to share myself around, I feel bad if I say something personal to someone that I don't consider special to me. I guess I become more and more boring. For example, I never got used to that "sex and city" type of conversation. My relationships or love troubels are just mine and that's it.
So, I like to talk with people, but I must be in special mood (or on net) to say something really private. If I want to bond myself with someone, I force myself to be open.
I think I tend to send out subtle hints as a way of communicating thinking everyone will just get it, since I feel I would easily pick up on them myself if it were the other way around.
Then I get frustrated when they aren't being picked up on and I shut down and internalize my thoughts and feelings.
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Actually, i'm feeling lately like i don't want to reveal too much of myself to people as much, because i tend to compromise too much when i do. I prefer being less open unless i know i can trust the person. My communication most of time is based on the vibes or impressions i receive from others and then i try to adapt (although it doesn't always work). People tend to expect more of me communication wise than i can deliver. Very few people allow you to just be - and too self conscious to feel completely relaxed. I'm not sure i have a need to be sociable anymore, just sociable enough. I'm more interested in finding people i can make a real connection with, and whether that happens or not, i think i'll try to focus on enjoying the journey or experience of it.
Non-verbally. Actions speak louder than words to me and from me, especially since a lot of Extroverts say things without ever meaning any of them.
I think I tend to send out subtle hints as a way of communicating thinking everyone will just get it, since I feel I would easily pick up on them myself if it were the other way around.
Then I get frustrated when they aren't being picked up on and I shut down and internalize my thoughts and feelings.
I also don't always like talking while in public if others are to close nearby. I can be a very quiet dinner partner at a restaurant if I feel I will have to reveal too much about myself to strangers nearby.
But I am all ears. Feel free to ramble on and on. Please! It takes the pressure off of me.
I don't know, hard for me to explain without subtle, vague, non verbal hints.:behindsofa:
For me, it comes down to a matter of trust. I have to trust the person I'm communicating with, or I won't give them all of me...and that includes my closest relatives. But if I trust you, fully trust you, I'm totally open and honest. I love giving feedback, and I love receiving productive feedback, but I don't have to trust someone implicitly to accept their feedback; I just have to interpret their words as valid and wise.
As to what I'm not willing to share, it depends. If I feel the feedback is an even exchange, I'll gladly and freely give even delicate information. But if someone is asking me a lot of personal questions and isn't willing that I ask the same questions in kind, I usually pull away from the conversation. I am really willing to listen and communicate with others if the freedom is there...but the exchange has to be both equal and fair.