He says that if an INFP uses an Fe (s)he uses it in a rather negative way because it is a shadow function. And that is exactly how I use it. In the same way as you described it actually.
Yes, well, I said the use of Fe is
strained, so it's not a dominant function, but it's also not that you do not use it in any form.
For me, it's just not something I can identify with much at all.
I'm not that familiar with Beebe though. I'm better versed in Jung's theory, MBTI (Gifts Differing), Keirsey (who I dislike) and Thomson. Thomson talks about how every type uses every function, and in what manner, and that is what I was referring to.
One of the core differences between the INFJ type and the INFP type is when if asked how do you feel, an INFP will pretty much always automatically know, because they seem to take things from the outside world and think or feel, 'how does this sit with me', does this resonate with me, who I am, kinda thing, INFJ's on the other hand tend to be quite stumped by the question and have to trace back (unless they use a form of like place holder, something generic that will move the conversation on yet still be polite). How are you feeling now is kind of a question that INFJ's really try to explore, who they are, a search for self in a way I guess, INFP's tend to always know "who they are" they don't have to trace back through possibilities and implications to guess or find what they are feeling they just know in their heart/soul/core. One thing that is kind of amusing, if you say to an INFJ something that truly resonates with them they tend to like....smile or break into a grin and almost surprise themselves because they weren't necessarily aware that it was the case but the get that it is because of the emotional response so it has to be something that resonates with them....those kinda moments are very pleasant for them...or at least seems to be, but i suppose this last comment could apply to any type.
I agree with this, but I think it's important to note that an INFP may KNOW, but expressing the feeling is another story. Hence the tendency for poetry & art - as Jung says, Fi "demands a more than ordinary descriptive or artistic ability before the real wealth of this feeling can be even approximately presented or communicated to the world."
Oh, there I am mouthing off again....haha. You might never guess I am so harmlessly quiet in person.
I've only actually MET one INFJ. I worked with her, and she never took the test, but it was crystal CRRRYSSTAALLL clear that she was INFJ. Siighh.. I never paid much attention to her actually, and didn't give her much credit as being very interesting until something else happened. She was the conflict-avoidance type who might lash out at you unexpectedly when she finally gets angry enough. I liked her a lot. I think she's 30 now.
Met tons of INFP's. They're statistically MUCH more common. They always struck me as very easygoing. I usually have trouble telling INFPs and ENFJs apart because of that. INFPs are just really laidback. They seem like idea people too. Generally happy, I think. I like them, but find them boring. I often wish I was an INFP though.
INFJs are obviously very much in a class of their own. NOT easygoing, not really. Very very complex.... I don't really enjoy INFPs because whenever I reach for depth, they don't seem to take it seriously. That's why I have a strong preference towards INFJs. There's just so much more there....
Well, I've met more than a few INTJs and they are terribly dull, so there :tongue1:. They always want to date me too, hahaha.
The statistic thing is dubious at best, and my anecdotal experience has more run-ins with INFJs & INTJs than INFPs. I know a lot of ISFPs too, and I suspect many would type as INFP to people who don't know better.
I'm easy-going in that I don't go out of my way to be obstinate & I dislike conflict a lot (I tend to avoid conflict & then finally blow unexpectedly - that is typical NF stuff), but I'm also moody and aloof. People don't find me friendly, and I'm very prone to melancholy. These points are repeatedly emphasized throughout many INFP profiles. The "fluffy bunny" stereotype needs to end!!!
