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Would you date a stripper?

slant said:
a partner shouldn't have the right to disapprove or judge them entirely based on their choice of work. Ridiculous.
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Incorrect in its assumption. Any person has the right to choose who they want to be with based on any criteria they choose to name. If this criteria happens to be the persons job, that's their decision. They've no right to force the other person to quit their job, or hobby, or appearance, or anything else, but they do have the right to tell their partner that they find such activities unwelcome, and will cease the relationship accordingly. The partner then has the choice to end the relationship, or modify based on the partners approval.
 
Shai Gar said:
As long as she isn't also a prostitute.
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As long as she also IS a prostitute.

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Seriously though, I wouldn't rule it out, but I don't think it's a turn on for me either. I am kind of indifferent. If I met someone I liked then she told me she was a stripper, I wouldn't end the relationship, I would ask her to pole dance to prove it though.

If I met a stripper and she seemed interested, I would be skeptical as to her intent, the why, and proceed more cautiously.
 
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Shai Gar said:
Incorrect in its assumption. Any person has the right to choose who they want to be with based on any criteria they choose to name. If this criteria happens to be the persons job, that's their decision. They've no right to force the other person to quit their job, or hobby, or appearance, or anything else, but they do have the right to tell their partner that they find such activities unwelcome, and will cease the relationship accordingly. The partner then has the choice to end the relationship, or modify based on the partners approval.
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Yeah, I agree with that, maybe I should have expanded upon my point. The reason I say that though is if you limit yourself to thinking like that, such as, you wouldn't ever date a stripper because you don't think the job is acceptable, etc. If you find a suitable mate and they disclose that they are a stripper, or one of the occupations on one of your 'black lists' of careers you won't date, good people are going to pass by. I suppose if it works for the people, but a job is a job and a person is a person. Entirely different things. If someone DOES have an inability to date people who are of a certain career, not only should they say that straight up, but they should understand that due to that they are going to be skipping over a huge group of people for preferences that don't even seem rational [to me].
 
I won't date a member of the US Republican Party, or the Australian Liberals.

I don't care how good you are, you're illogical.
 
No, I don't think I would. There's just something about male strippers that makes me uneasy. Kind of like an irrational fear of someone who has a career as a clown working children's birthday parties.
 
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Good was a poor choice of words...
 
Shai Gar said:
I won't date a member of the US Republican Party, or the Australian Liberals.

I don't care how good you are, you're illogical.
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I'm registered as a Republican because I want the opportunity to vote in the primaries. What's illogical about that?
 
I would only date a stripper if he striped for me and me only.:m171:

However I would probably just end up drawing him. Life drawing anyone?
 
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Shai Gar said:
Incorrect in its assumption. Any person has the right to choose who they want to be with based on any criteria they choose to name. If this criteria happens to be the persons job, that's their decision. They've no right to force the other person to quit their job, or hobby, or appearance, or anything else, but they do have the right to tell their partner that they find such activities unwelcome, and will cease the relationship accordingly. The partner then has the choice to end the relationship, or modify based on the partners approval.
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I was thinking about this thread, came back, and found this response which is better than I could have said it. People often have seemingly arbitrary criterion for a partner. It can get far more arbitrary than profession which often has some sort of actual impact. Height, hair color, weight, boob size, length of legs, smell, posture are all more strictly arbitrary in how they would actually affect a relationship and yet are sometimes deciding factors.

Any profession has social implications and affects a relationship to varying degrees. Some professions can impact a relationship to a similar degree as the personality of the individual. The question about controversy regarding a profession could come up if the word stripper was replaced by any of the following:

Pastor, underwater welder, pop star, military personnel, astronaut, actor, super-model, doctor, genius, disabled person, billionaire, homeless person, psychologist, etc.
 
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Once upon a time, I would have said no. But today, no problem except that jealousy would get the better of me. I don't think I could handle the competition for his time and all those women oggling them every night. I'd fear he'd go home with them, and forget about me. Ironically, I am not sure I'd want him to strip for me. If he does it for a job, I wouldn't want him to feel obligated to do it at home, because that's the same as everyone expects. I'd prefer we had a normal love life with no huge expectations of porn star performance because he is a stripper. At least I know his body is in great shape, and he knows how to move it. But at the end of the day, I'd be dating him, the person, not a "stripper."
 
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At the strip club, a "dancer" will unbuckle your belt with her mouth. When I pee I buckle my belt before I wash my hands.

I love kissing. Suffice it to say that I would not want to kiss a stripper everyday knowing what I know.
 
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acd said:
I'm cringing at myself in this thread. Considering starting over with a new name and account. Thanks for the Necro @Flavus Aquila !
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Don't be so sensitive I thought it was funny. You probably got a positive rep for it. But it's gone now.
 
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Gale said:
Once upon a time, I would have said no. But today, no problem except that jealousy would get the better of me. I don't think I could handle the competition for his time and all those women oggling them every night. I'd fear he'd go home with them, and forget about me. Ironically, I am not sure I'd want him to strip for me. If he does it for a job, I wouldn't want him to feel obligated to do it at home, because that's the same as everyone expects. I'd prefer we had a normal love life with no huge expectations of porn star performance because he is a stripper. At least I know his body is in great shape, and he knows how to move it. But at the end of the day, I'd be dating him, the person, not a "stripper."
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Jokes on you Gale, male strippers are gay. You never had a chance.
 
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I'm not sure whether this really counts but I have dated a "go go dancer" before in my youth. It was the first time I fell in love and was sort of overwhelming but he was kind of lacking direction in his life. I don't judge anyone for stripping but I couldn't really see it happening again now. It reminds me of that unstable and unsustainable sort of lifestyle I lived when I worked in hospitality. I would rather date a guy who works weekdays.
 
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