I'm a male INTJ who dated an INFJ for a year and a half, a prior to that two INFP's, but I'll try to focus on the INFJ.
First, before I get into the dislikes, I should mention what I did like about the INFJ I dated. These aren't necessarily related to her MBTI, but some of them might be.
1. She wasn't at all shallow. We were more prone to spend time at used bookstores than at clothing stores. She liked to read as much as I did, and in turn I got exposed to a lot of great literature (I study philosophy, but don't read a lot outside of that field unless I'm properly motivated).
2. She liked the outdoors as much as I did, largely for the same reasons. So we spent our weekends in national forests instead of clubs and bars.
3. She was great at empathy.
4. She clicked really well with my family.
5. In many ways, she 'got me' more than others.
6. She respected my need for solitude as she had a similar need. Albeit we had it for different reasons.
Now onto the dislikes:
1. She was way too sensitive for me. I (and quite a few NT's I have talked to who have dated NF's. . .) felt like I was walking on eggshells a lot of the time.
2. We bonded with our friends for different reasons. She sought emotional connection whereas I tended to have good friends because of similar intellectual interests. Not that she wasn't an 'intellectual', but we defined friendship differently. She often criticized me for not really 'bonding' with my friends the way she did with hers, which I personally thought, and think, is laughable.
3. I didn't care for her friends and she didn't care for mine. She tended to have friends who had some major disorders, or were open about their feelings, intelligent (such as into the same literature as her), but were selfish and immature. She would get devestated when one of her friends acted selfish, even though she knew all along that that's how they were. My response was either get new friends or stop expecting your friends to act differently than the way they do. I tended to have friends who were more stable, 'had it together', took responsibility for their lives, etc, and at the same time able to bond intellectually with me. OR they were just fun (for example I had some friends that I met while an exchange student, and our only connection was we all lived in a foreign country together. They tended to be a bit crude sometimes, but it never bothered me. It bothered her A LOT).
4. The mind reading thing. INFJ's, as I think was mentioned already in this thread, can't always trust their intuition about another person's motives. About half our fights started because she thought she could read my mind, she in fact completely misunderstood me, but she refused to acknowledge that she was wrong. INTJ's are famous for having lizard faces, and oftentimes when we look annoyed, we are really just concentrating on whatever thing it is we are focusing on.
5. The clinginess. She clinged hard. If she was out of town for a week, by the second night, she would be in a desperate, "woe-is-me, we are in a doomed long distance relationship I can't go on without you stay up all night on the phone with me." Keep in mind, she would be on vacation with her family when this is happening. We in fact live in the same town, ten minutes away from each other. Or if I spent the night alone at my house (maybe twice a week), she would get really scared that I was going to leave her for good. What she didn't realize was that by acting on her fears and clinging harder, she was really pushing me away- the opposite effect she intended. INTJ's value independence. I've read that INFJ"s do to, but at least my INFJ didn't.
6. She was never satisfied. In spite of my very best efforts, according to her we never bonded in the right way, or enough. I often felt like I had to be this super warm fuzzy guy to her all the time, which is not really how INTJ's tend to be. There were often fights at 6am, when I just woke up, because I wasn't acting super fuzzy (even though I had just woken up and hadn't even had a coffee). What she didn't realize, and when I did try to explain it to her, she thought was horrifying, was that when INTJ's are emotionally expressive, it actually drains us, much in the same way that when Introverts spend to much time socializing, it drains them. It's just not natural for us. I get stimulated by a fascinating topic or a good debate (I know INFJ's can get stimulated by that too), but being empathetic is not at all natural. I tend to want to offer solutions to a problem, whereas she wanted someone to empathize with.
7. She never told me what was wrong, until a few hours or days later, when she would not just tell me, she would express it, usually in a hostile, biting way, that was way out of proportion of my original offense. For example, one time I was ten minutes (not lying) late for dinner, because I was tied up at work. I even texted her to tell her I was going to be late, but for some reason she never got the message. I got to dinner, she acted cold for 30 minutes, then when we were leaving, she blurts out "YOU ALWAYS MAKE ME WAIT! YOU ARE SO SELFISH!" Fact is, she never had to wait for me, I'm usually the one who is early, but she turned the situation from something that was a minor inconvenience to something that was terrible. Prior to her emotional outburst, she denied the entire time that something was wrong. Fortunately she did apologize later.
Don't get me wrong, there are a lot of great things about her and INFJ's in general. But after dating three INF's, my next one will probably be a T.