The INFJ sex life
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Hallucinated... she says. Sounds Nice..It's AMAZING. @Jet I hallucinated once the sex was so good! We loved each other so much and I trusted him and he was sexy as fuk. OMG. It was so amazing. God. FML. ISFPs are the best lovers.
Go try one.
Teach us, wise one.. I find I agree with the deep love tied to deep sex stuff... But I don't get the idea that INFJ's lack drive.. Mine's epic 
Mine too. I usually suck at communicating this, or perhaps I just don't want to emphasize sex that much but yeah, epic.But I don't get the idea that INFJ's lack drive.. Mine's epic
LOL.. Duly noted.Mine too. I usually suck at communicating this, or perhaps I just don't want to emphasize sex that much but yeah, epic.
I had an unusual love experience (no sex) and afterwards sex seemed to suddenly become impossible, it's been about 5 years I think, but not completely sure, could be less. I guess I'm looking for the right man, not sure he's out there though.
I understand. I simply cannot be sexually intimate with just anyone. There has to be a strong and deep connection with my partner, and then it's crazy intense. But even if you're not having sex, is the drive still there, or is it more dormant because you're not in a relationship with the right guy? Are you able to separate love and sexual intimacy? I'm genuinely curious about your perspective, but by no means should you answer if it's too personal.
It didn't matter like this for me when I was younger, but yes, for me it's now more like what you describe about your choice of partner. Yeah I still have a sex drive, and I like to look at pretty men, but there's rarely any sense of the drive being "ignited" in a way that I would want to act on. Acting without the drive being "ignited" seems like eating mouldy food, I'm sure I could get nutrition out of it, but it wouldn't be very enjoyable. I'm not sure that I need to be in love exactly, in order to be sexual ... but it needs to be the right type of guy that there could potentially be love there in future, and for whatever reason, that type of connection doesn't exist with many men. Do you relate to any of this?
I relate to all of it, completely, especially about being "ignited". These types of connection are very few and far between for me. Mouldy food is a very good comparison, lol. I once compared it to mouldy pizza. Sure, it's still pizza, but why on earth would you want to?
Thank you for your honesty.
Not to high jack... just to chime in as another INFJ perspective.. I, personally am a slave to my moral compass... which tells me I am only to have crazy intense sex in the construct and covenant of marriage. My drive will try to tell me otherwise, only if I meet someone who is a strong chance of being the "one" lol... But there ALWAYS has to e a sexual build of tension with me first, which must start in my mind... sapiosexual.. and in my heart..
and in my heart..
Agreed with you both... yes.. that connection.I relate to all of it, completely, especially about being "ignited". These types of connection are very few and far between for me. Mouldy food is a very good comparison, lol. I once compared it to mouldy pizza. Sure, it's still pizza, but why on earth would you want to?
Thank you for your honesty.
Not to sound like an utterly noob ...but, how does one "like" ones comment on here? So much to like..
I think many of us are sapiosexual. This is true for me as well. An intelligent being is far more attractive to me than any physical attribute, though physical attraction still plays its part. And yes, the build up, the anticipation, it is probably why it can be so intense. We're all guided by our own moral compasses and within my own, marriage is just another term for a long-term commited relationship. I don't think casual sex and an INFJ go well together. That's not to say it doesn't happen, but I think there are emotional consequences for any xNFx in regards to this.But there ALWAYS has to e a sexual build of tension with me first, which must start in my mind... sapiosexual..
Keep posting and the option will appear. I'm unsure as to exactly the number of posts, though.
Haha.. I have this problem, too. But no worries, we understood you perfectly, even with your trolling autocorrect.
Thanks Free..Keep posting and the option will appear. I'm unsure as to exactly the number of posts, though.
LOL... trolling indeed.Haha.. I have this problem, too. But no worries, we understood you perfectly, even with your trolling autocorrect.
Agreed! It's like our soul pays for it after if we break moral code.. and the act itself will be far less satisfying.. if at all.."mouldy food"
- which only adds to the after guilt..