Step 1
Watch their
body language. INFJs are
initially quiet
when meeting new people. In
large and unfamiliar social situations, the INFJ is often uncomfortable
as they take everything in. They prefer one-on-one contact to group interaction. Approval or disapproval can
more often be seen in their
subtle facial expressions,
than in their word choices. An INFJ walks erect and with purpose and they appear to be focused on where they are going. The INFJ also tends to be
preoccupied and is likely to bump into a table or trip on a step.
Step 2
Listen for verbal clues. An INFJ uses a lot of figurative language with
metaphor, analogy, and deeper meaning. Because of the unconscious nature of their dominant function, Introverted Intuition (Ni), the INFJ will often seem to ramble as they search for the right words. Parasitic words such as "like" or "um" litter their speech as they attempt to express
their thoughts and feelings accurately.
Step 3
Get in touch with their feelings. INFJs use Extraverted Feeling (Fe) to express themselves. Using Fe, an INFJ will use language to express their values. It drives them to go to great lengths to promote harmony. Extraverted Feeling motivates the INFJ to help others. Fe also causes an INFJ to do things because
they want to help. They care how
they make others feel.
Step 4
Check out what they're wearing. An INFJ will choose appearance
combined with function, and their outfits are
rarely flashy, but often coordinated. INFJs usually consider expensive clothing to be a luxury as opposed to a necessity, and tend to dress with
simple elegance that tends toward casual and confortable.