Proper Care of Your INFJ
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That's because you will!
^_^ Yeah, thanks! I'll admit that sometimes I feel very doubtful but it's simple things like this that brings optimism.
I LOVE THIS LIST!!!!!!! SO TRUE!!!!
I saw myself in these, so much!!!!!!
I absolutely love when the person I am with comes up from behind me and puts their arms around me. hehe. (although it has never brought me to tears....)
And I think it's great that you are referring to INFJs as pets! haha! We are so eager to please! lol.
I TOTALLY am the same way. While I do like being treated like a Princess, and I love this list, if someone does all of those things all of the time I would feel SO smothered. Like recently I was with an ENFP and he was just TOO loving. I prefer to be the emotional one. All my previous relationships were with Ts, and I think I'm gonna stick with that in the future. I like ENTPs and INTPs, and I currently like an ISTP. I don't think I could date another INFJ. (also...don't know if I could date a J...hmm...)
I take that as an insult.
haha.
Seriously though.
We are SO different! Look it up!
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I saw myself in these, so much!!!!!!
I absolutely love when the person I am with comes up from behind me and puts their arms around me. hehe. (although it has never brought me to tears....)
And I think it's great that you are referring to INFJs as pets! haha! We are so eager to please! lol.
Well, according to VH's other post, the good news is that INFJ's come in a variety of flavours... which I 100% agree with.
On a personal note, however, I think I wouldn't be able to be with another NF type. I need someone who can challenge me and whose edges I can soften. ENTP's and ENTJ's for me, please (although I definitely won't rule anyone out by type... just generally speaking, you know?
I TOTALLY am the same way. While I do like being treated like a Princess, and I love this list, if someone does all of those things all of the time I would feel SO smothered. Like recently I was with an ENFP and he was just TOO loving. I prefer to be the emotional one. All my previous relationships were with Ts, and I think I'm gonna stick with that in the future. I like ENTPs and INTPs, and I currently like an ISTP. I don't think I could date another INFJ. (also...don't know if I could date a J...hmm...)
I take that as an insult.
haha.
Seriously though.
We are SO different! Look it up!<3
Hear, hear, about time someone figured this out and posted it, so we can print it out for our loved ones. I'm printing, even as I write. I do think TDHT makes a good point as well, but on his good days my b/f (I think he's an ENFJ) hits every point on this list and I adore it. When his black moods are upon him, however, it's very different and my poor INFJ sensitivities feel quite flayed.
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At this point I thought, "I would probably cry if someone this close to me did this..", and then....
Totally nailed it. Wow.
Awww. Von Hase, this was absolutely brilliant! <3 It made me smile haha.
My friend did this to me since one time. No wonder it stuck in my head. He probably doesn't even remember doing it. Haha.
Great list, really. I'd rep you if I could. XD
My friend did this to me since one time. No wonder it stuck in my head. He probably doesn't even remember doing it. Haha.
Great list, really. I'd rep you if I could. XD
I agree, but this is also because we won't let our walls don't for someone who is not the 'right one'. We desperately want to have this kind of relationship. It's just a matter of finding someone we can trust to allow into this sacred place in our hearts and minds.
One guide line for all variety of relationships with an INFJ above acquaintance:
If you are in trouble, TALK TO YOUR INFJ. they want to hear, and they want to help you, no matter the circumstances. and no matter what you do, do NOT leave your INFJ in the dark. Though we can have some amazing insights, we are not truly mind readers, and can not figure out who said what by you staring at us. (meaning word by word, we can tell what you think it means, but we can't correct you if we don't have this spoken info)
For example, I sleep with my cell phone under my pillow, so that if someone needs me at 4 am, and I'm asleep, my phone will wake me and we can have that 3 hour conversation that you need. I also make sure all my friends know I do this, and I really, truly don't mind.
If you are in trouble, TALK TO YOUR INFJ. they want to hear, and they want to help you, no matter the circumstances. and no matter what you do, do NOT leave your INFJ in the dark. Though we can have some amazing insights, we are not truly mind readers, and can not figure out who said what by you staring at us. (meaning word by word, we can tell what you think it means, but we can't correct you if we don't have this spoken info)
For example, I sleep with my cell phone under my pillow, so that if someone needs me at 4 am, and I'm asleep, my phone will wake me and we can have that 3 hour conversation that you need. I also make sure all my friends know I do this, and I really, truly don't mind.
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Another one:
We often have some difficulty starting a conversation, and we are especially bad at small talk (this possibly comes from us not needing to ask how you are, as we already know). So, please, if you have questions for us, ask us, we want to tell you. Also, the more specific the question, the better we are at answering. With very general questions (ie "What's he like?") we don't know where to begin, and we will stare at you blankly for a little while.
Also, in conversation, we have a tendency to start talking about you, when we should be talking about ourselves. If you notice this, feel free to direct the conversation back to us, we don't know how (actually, we probably do, we're just bad at putting it to practice in this sort of situation).
We often have some difficulty starting a conversation, and we are especially bad at small talk (this possibly comes from us not needing to ask how you are, as we already know). So, please, if you have questions for us, ask us, we want to tell you. Also, the more specific the question, the better we are at answering. With very general questions (ie "What's he like?") we don't know where to begin, and we will stare at you blankly for a little while.
Also, in conversation, we have a tendency to start talking about you, when we should be talking about ourselves. If you notice this, feel free to direct the conversation back to us, we don't know how (actually, we probably do, we're just bad at putting it to practice in this sort of situation).
haha no wonder, would you consider then ISFJ and INFJ to be very different? Can an INFJ mistype themselves as an ISFJ?..i like the points that you made that SFJ's tend to have stronger J's, it all makes sense now why my J is so low.