People's personalities are so much larger than type. Some ISTJs are really warm and thoughtful and open-minded (I know many) and some are not. Some INFJs are warm and thoughtful and open-minded and some are jerks. haha.
People's personalities are so much larger than type. Some ISTJs are really warm and thoughtful and open-minded (I know many) and some are not. Some INFJs are warm and thoughtful and open-minded and some are jerks. haha.
ISTJs fascinate me a little. They'd be the type of people I'd mess with.
I find it incredibly tough to enjoy the company of ISTJs if they are stuck in the 'everything that happens to me is bad' mentality, the negative outlook saps me. Otherwise, they're fine.
well....
I have to admit, I'm an INFJ married to an ISTJ and it is super challenging!!
But in the end, he's exactly what I need to help me out, and I'm exactly what he needs to soften and round out the rough edges out.
I think life would be easier being with an "N" or an "F", but I admire his strong points...
It's nice to have someone to help me out when I'm not quite sure what I'm thinking, and since he's much better at it, he helps me get to the root of the issue.
I'd say we have more pro's than con's in our relationship.
I am dating an ISTJ right now... I think we confuse each other, it's kind of funny! Being outwardly affectionate doesn't come naturally to him, if you saw us out together you couldn't tell we were a couple. Most of the time I am the one initiating hugs & kisses, which I find a bit strange. He always returns them though, and I know he feels strongly for me (after a few weeks, he wanted us to be "official," to call me his girlfriend, before I was ready for that). Romance in general just... doesn't occur to him. It can hurt my feelings. I will say though, that if I *tell* him I want him to communicate more, show more affection, etc. he really does try to, in his own (slightly awkward/nervous) way- through actions more often than words (bringing me a little gift, for example). He needs emotional things spelled out for him, but once they are, he tries his best to meet my needs. He means well, is a nice guy and has a good heart. I'm finding him both frustrating and endearing.. Anyone else have ISTJ relationship stories/advice to share?
One thing about him though, that I haven't really seen expressed here by others about his personality type is that people generally really like him. He appears very social, but is very much an introvert, and he adapts easily around other people, but he'd rather be at home alone. He seems outgoing and when he's with his guy friends they tend to make him the leader, and he looks like a fish in water, but knowing him, he'd rather sit on the back burner. And he could care less about having friends. He has no problem just writing everyone off, even people who think he really likes them, which is a part of his personality that does actually bother me. But we do balance each other out...