Arent INFJs typically unhappy by definition? Not depressed, but sort of caught within an existential crisis they cant fully commit to while trying to save the people around them while trying to figure out the nature of existence?
That usually makes stoic and somber people... that "quiet desperation".
If they are undeveloped and or refuse to grow, then yes. Otherwise, I would say no.
I disagree, I think one can be sort of gloomy in nature because of a weighty sense of awareness. I find happiness to be more akin to ignorance personally.
Anger is more akin to being under developed. But being aware of things and knowing that life can only ever be bittersweet at BEST is sort of a gloomy prospect, kind of sad really...
happiness without sadness is not realistic, its based on ignorance. Which is sort of why I say life is bittersweet. Knowing this and being free from it doesn't make you happy, it makes you neutral. I suppose there is some relief in the freedom of neutrality which one could call happiness, but no more really then saying I am happy because I am not in pain.No that is not the case, and you could make that argument for any introvert type really. If one is truly a developed individual they will be able to move beyond such awarenesses and no longer have it effect them while still knowing. To think happiness is equal to ignorance is a huge misnomer.
I'm so happy and grateful that I'm an INFJ because should it be otherwise chances are I would never have found such beautiful place like this forum is.
As for the Billy's and Indigo's conv, I think that INFJs are often happy and sad for things at the same time. It's like when you look at the newborn's face and you are happy that a new life begins but at the same time you thinks that at that exact minute someone else's is ending. I think that for INFJs life is bitter sweet.
happiness without sadness is not realistic, its based on ignorance. Which is sort of why I say life is bittersweet. Knowing this and being free from it doesn't make you happy, it makes you neutral. I suppose there is some relief in the freedom of neutrality which one could call happiness, but no more really then saying I am happy because I am not in pain.
I think INFJs generally feel too deeply to ever be considered neutral or impassive... and a lot of times, the sadness in things makes me appreciate it even more.
Just finish " I am so very happy and grateful that I am an INFJ because..." (or I am so very happy and grateful that I am an xxxx because...)
I promise you'll feel better after finishing that sentence.
I promise you'll feel better after reading what everyone else has to say.
Everyone could use a healthy ego boost.