How do you know when someone is hitting on you?

[udremeei]

[MENTION=1834]Honey Badger[/MENTION], I'm the same exact way.

For me, though, I can usually tell if someone's flirting with me when they WON'T GO AWAY. Haha. I can usually go silent and start doing something on the side, painstakingly (though as politely as possible) ignoring them. If they don't go away, and keep saying the things they were saying before, I find out that they're flirting, or really trying to joking *really hard*. It's unusual for someone to want to joke *that much*, so I usually default to assuming they're flirting.

 

[894tt3h9]

@Honey Badger , I'm the same exact way.

For me, though, I can usually tell if someone's flirting with me when they WON'T GO AWAY. Haha. I can usually go silent and start doing something on the side, painstakingly (though as politely as possible) ignoring them. If they don't go away, and keep saying the things they were saying before, I find out that they're flirting, or really trying to joking *really hard*. It's unusual for someone to want to joke *that much*, so I usually default to assuming they're flirting.

Ahh yes I know what you mean with this. I have noticed the joking thing but I always assumed people just thought they were funnier than they really were lol.

 

[Gaze]

I am not sure if I can tell the difference between someone being nice and someone flirting unless they come out directly and tell me they are interested. There have been more than enough situations where I confused the two so I'm skeptical. It's especially awkward if you are interested in the person.

 

[Jana]

I am not sure if I can tell the difference between someone being nice and someone flirting unless they come out directly and tell me they are interested. There have been more than enough situations where I confused the two so I'm skeptical. It's especially awkward if you are interested in the person.

[MENTION=1669]Rite[/MENTION]
Yes, for example when someone calls you sweet or dear or have tendency to tease you in some subtile way...sometimes I find myself in "wtf you meant by that?" situation. It should not be what it looks like...
And there are always people who flirts with anybody: men, women, cars, air...just because they can

 

[This]

To be honest I can't tell when someone is "flirting", most of the "signs" just sound like common courtesy or things you're supposed to do in human interactions with others.

 

[Stu]

Flirting usually has a physical component. Either actual or implied. When it is implied sometimes the meaning has to be distilled allegorically. If the person interested in you knows you are easily set to flight, the phrases will be subtle ("that fits you well" as opposed to "that looks nice on you"), often times the flirter will be looking intently, even momentarily, upon those features you posses which they are attracted to. And always the flirter's aspect and mood will visibly lighten when you pay attention to them.

not that I know anything about this. BTW Jana, the hilt of that sword seems made for Awren's hand.

 

[Kgal]

Can you not tell when someone is attracted to you by the twinkle in their eyes?

The eyes tell all - if the person is genuine with you.

 

[Ryo]

Can you not tell when someone is attracted to you by the twinkle in their eyes?

The eyes tell all - if the person is genuine with you.

I used to think this was true but now I'm not so sure. I think twinkly eyes can mean either interest or just appreciation/love. Not necessarily physical attraction. I know from bitter experience

 

[Kgal]

I used to think this was true but now I'm not so sure. I think twinkly eyes can mean either interest or just appreciation/love. Not necessarily physical attraction. I know from bitter experience

I'm sorry you've had a bitter experience with physical attraction.

Then what [MENTION=1939]StudebakerHawk[/MENTION] said adds to the "watching the eyes" act.
He suggested a person will look - or call attention to - at an area of your body they are attracted to while making the comment. If one is watching their eyes they would see this in action.

...like the sword/hand comment about the Arwen avatar of [MENTION=1069]Jana[/MENTION]...

Did you guys catch that?

 

[Sloe Djinn]

[video=youtube;uCn5uUEnjUQ]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uCn5uUEnjUQ[/video]

 

[Gaze]

To be honest I can't tell when someone is "flirting", most of the "signs" just sound like common courtesy or things you're supposed to do in human interactions with others.

Yeah, but I confuse the two all the time. So, now I'm all about the direct rather than implied flirting style. So, I'll probably prefer someone saying "I really like you a lot, and you're amazingly hot" before I'd really get the message.




j/k

 

[Stu]

To be honest I can't tell when someone is "flirting", most of the "signs" just sound like common courtesy or things you're supposed to do in human interactions with others.

more than likely no woman has been flirting with you. It is rare for women to be flirtatious with men unless they believe their overtures would be welcome. By rare I do not mean that it is wrong.

 

[Nixie]

more than likely no woman has been flirting with you. It is rare for women to be flirtatious with men unless they believe their overtures would be welcome. By rare I do not mean that it is wrong.

I beg to differ stud. I flirt all the time, especially with handsome Irish men.

 

[Stu]

You look so joyfully pretty in your avatar, it lightens my mood just lookin

I beg to differ stud. I flirt all the time, especially with handsome Irish men.

I clearly began flirting first.

On 11/2/10 you posted the following.....

I remember some guy(?? who knows) just sort of going off about "things" once and it made me really laugh. I also had to mess up his little scenerio and "poof" he just disappeared off the chat. He was doing this whole shower scene thing and I responded something like "and you dropped the soap, slipping in tub, hit your head and got a concussion" or something like that. I didn't know the guy very well and wasn't feeling the whole "lets make believe" crap. I think it would be different if I was having fun with someone I knew versus some strange internet guy. So, my vote is Not Really Feeling It.

this prompted me, shortly there after, to rep a post of yours with the comment that I felt sorry for the poor guy you left in the cyber shower.

then you quoted the following post

The Fire From Within. & Demons of the Inner World. have Calculus Diaries on hold. and another book I am embarrassed to name

in this post

'
Bet it is a romance novel...

to which I answered

It is two books really. They are both porn.

I am not saying that you don

 

[Kgal]

I clearly began flirting first.

I am not saying that you don

 

[Stu]

I think the key to being flirted with is to let go of your paranoia

 

[Gaze]

*interesting plotting of events . . . must . . . spy on @Sonya and @StudebakerHawk for more often for tips on flirting . . . forum style*

 

[Kgal]

*interesting plotting of events . . . must . . . spy on @Sonya and @StudebakerHawk more often for tips on flirting . . . forum style*

Excellent! You can't go wrong with this one, Rite! :w:

 

[Saru Inc]

I got hit on by this dude at Gamestop when I went to buy my xbox 360. Obvious ESXP. My brother wasthere, awkward multiplier by 10.


How could I tell? Well first off he wouldn't stop talking holy shit I felt like I was watching a video of myself. Second off, he was -too- helpful, made eye contact every chance he could, and walked me out of the store to give me the bag.


Gays are creeeps.

 

[Stu]

Gays are creeeps.

give it a rest