As per the aspects...I relate with (East?) Asian's importance on perseverance, and not relate with their defeatist attitude. I relate with Indonesian's importance on politeness, not on their importance on submission (but I guess I'm still far more submissive compared to your ordinary Westerners.), not on their passive-aggresiveness. I relate with Indonesian's etiquette, not so much to their behaviour and beliefs. I relate to the class prejudice (not proud, but alas.) within Indonesia, not so much to the racial or religious prejudice.
And I don't relate to; their conservatist attitude, their heteronormativity, the extremely religious YET often hypocritical culture, their 'asal bapak senang' attitude (read : sucking up to the superiors), most of the artistic sensibilities, and the way people drove.