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[INFJ] Are you likeable?? Socially accepted?? Even Popular?

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    At first glance I assumed what it was, and was gonna respond with the negative answer. It seems I have no choice :C
     
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    I don't know how I feel about the Rainbow Dash/Sonic thing that was going on in that poster...
     
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    Do you have trouble spots?
    Large crowds and chitchat

    Can you navigate the social landscape flawlessly?
    I can navigate out of it?

    Do you feel you bumble around?
    No

    Are you generally yourself? Or do you filter yourself for others?
    I'm myself but I filter myself a lot depending on who I'm with.

    Do people catch that you are different??
    Different than them? I would say so yes.

    Do you feel like you fit in?

    Not with the very outgoing people I usually find myself with.

    Popular amongst the opposite sex??
    If I am I haven't noticed it.

    Do people like you, basically.
    Yes I believe so.
     
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    Tin Man "not at all a sociopathic dickhead"

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    Aroused?
     
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    It's definitely me, I agree, but not necessarily something I'm doing wrong. I don't invest in female friendships because they aren't a priority, I highly value my close relationships - my marriage, family/kids, few close friends and also my career, so I put my "perfectionism" energy into that. I overstated saying women do not like me - they do. But the question was are you popular with women - no. I am not unpopular either though. I'm just not a woman that most women pursue friendships with. But they will chat it up with me at a social gathering, they aren't running the other direction.

    As for jealousy - with 100% certainty I know many women who don't like me are jealous, so that I will disagree with. I'm highly intelligent, very attractive and physically fit, always put together, dress fashionably, have a law degree and a successful law practice, my kids are athletic rock stars, have an incredibly loving, attentive husband and super happy marriage. And I am not saying that to brag, I am saying that to support my point that many women don't like me because they want what I have. If you don't think that women don't like women simply because they are jealous, you don't know women.
     
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    We should have some for forum memes
     
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    So 31 years of being a woman and 5 years being a member on a board composed of mostly women who have had this debate multiple times ... and I'm the one who doesn't know women? You're cute.

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    Do you have trouble spots?
    people and being noticed.

    Can you navigate the social landscape flawlessly?

    i think so. but only because i had to. i worked on sales years ago. i had training.

    Do you feel you bumble around?
    what is bumble? bee? bumblebee? geeez im lame.

    Are you generally yourself? Or do you filter yourself for others?
    myself? i am always myself. but that doesn't mean im all out as to what i say or how i behave. i filter most times.

    Do people catch that you are different??
    you ask this as if being different is a bad thing. i'd rather be different than same with others. i am unique.

    Do you feel like you fit in?

    No. i have never felt this anywhere.

    Popular amongst the opposite sex??

    maybe? i don't really bother. i talk with anyone.

    Do people like you, basically?
    i dont like them but im a people magnet so i hide in my cave.
     
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    Do you have trouble spots? Not that you need to know about until I tell you when I'm drunk.

    Can you navigate the social landscape flawlessly? Mhm gurl.

    Do you feel you bumble around? Does this mean good juju or does it mean you sting everyone?

    Are you generally yourself? Or do you filter yourself for others? Maybe dis why I'm not maintaining the "friend" thing so well.

    Do people catch that you are different?? Mhm, I can predict the amount of boogers you are picking per day ... peeps dun like that.

    Do you feel like you fit in? HA Never

    Popular amongst the opposite sex?? Popular is a word no longer in my vocabulary.

    Do people like you, basically. They act like it, but who knows.
     
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    Do you have trouble spots? I sometimes talk too much or get pedantic about a subject I'm interested in. I've been told I can have an intimidating energy with some people.

    Can you navigate the social landscape flawlessly? I don't do anything 'flawlessly.' I make an idiot of myself somewhat on the regular.

    Do you feel you bumble around? Oh yeah, all the time.

    Are you generally yourself? Or do you filter yourself for others? Depends on the environment and people.

    Do people catch that you are different?? I've been known to surprise people.

    Do you feel like you fit in? Depends on the group.

    Popular amongst the opposite sex?? Depends on what I'm wearing. lol.

    But seriously, no.

    Do people like you, basically. It's a possibility.
     
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    bump ( I have been thinking about some of these questions lately and will answer when I have more time)
     
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    @Profoundhappiness
    What a great forum name.

    The answer to most of these questions is that I am not antisocial, I am selectively social. Generally I have become more selective over time but my participation varies and goes through different cycles.
    The main trouble spot is that I avoid a lot of people.
    I am flawed.
    Too focused to be a bumbler.
    Yes, I filter a lot.
    Most people would grok that I'm different after awhile.
    I do not feel like I fit in a lot of the time.
    I turn the magnet off most of the time :)
    Generally people like me. It's not that I don't care (INFJ's care.) It's just that being liked is less important.
     
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    ]Do you have trouble spots? I sometimes talk too much or get pedantic about a subject I'm interested in or passionate about. I've been told I can have an intimidating energy with some people. I also have issues with finishing people's sentences or saying things 5 seconds before the other person does. Ooops.
    People gernerally do not seem to be a big fan of that ;p
    Can you navigate the social landscape flawlessly? Psh. I just try not to trip, whether it be physically or over my words.

    Do you feel you bumble around? Sometimes, and other times I feel like a ghost around

    Are you generally yourself? Or do you filter yourself for others? Depends on the environment and people.

    Do people catch that you are different?? I've been known to surprise people, but the more you get to know me, the more the pattern is "realized"

    Do you feel like you fit in? Depends on the group.

    Popular amongst the opposite sex?? nah, I wouldn't say so lol.

    Do people like you, basically. It's possible.
     
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