Would you be attracted to yourself?

I started typing a reply to this, but then realized that I don't have a good idea of what I would be attracted to. Now I'm confused. I'll get back to this after a bit of thought. :noidea:

 

My gut instinct is yes. I would be attracted to myself.

It's hard to say that... because it sounds conceited, and I'd rather be modest but it isn't conceit, really. I'm honestly not attracted to many people (those still digging the astrology from the other thread will note my venus in virgo, which means I'm incredibly picky). I'm just really comfortable with and within myself. I'd know I could trust me. I'd know I could make myself laugh. I'd know I'd be forgiven just about anything. I'd know I'd be kind but challenging, responsible but imaginative, and tidy but nature-loving, and non-toxic. I'm enthusiastic, romantic and sensual but not kinky. We'd like the same music, movies, climates. :becky:

I like my figure (I actually like the same shape in men: long, lean, broad shouldered) I like the way I dress, I like my eyes. I like the tone and softness of my voice. I like the way I speak, the way I express myself. I like my posture. I like the way I've arranged and decorated my home.

And I don't think I'd get bored with myself. I still drive myself nuts and still learn something new about myself and the world every day.

Heck! Where have I been all my life!?!?

 

I'd be in Love. Actually I think I am already in Love with my Anima and other girls represent portions of her to me. < Ummm' to clarify slighly, I am hetero and male, but my Anima is female. The more a firl is like my Anima, the more attracted I will be. Isn't this true for most of us?

 

Mayflow, can you explain/elaborate on the Anima? I am interested and intrigued.

 

Satya, you start some very interesting threads! And you express yourself very coherently .

Same for me. I've tried to consider what I find attractive in a partner, but that's been difficult. This should be easier, since I already have distinct traits to work with. I'm going to think about this for a while before I reply.

ZenCat,

I love it.

 

I don't think I'm objective enough about myself that I would recognize my qualities in another person. Do you know what I mean? I never give myself credit for much, and if I'm bragging there is a 94% chance I'm joking.

My gut instinct is to say "No, I wouldn't be attracted to myself" but if I think about it.. I probably would be since I'm half in love with everyone anyway.

 

Yes, but I could just as easily end up hating the female me

 

*imagines himself in a dress and wig*

No.

 

I think we might be decent friends, but neither of us would be able to suggest an intimate relationship to the other.

But if we did get together, would it be masturbation?

 

I have thought about this in the past.

In some ways yes, in some ways no.

What is odd is that I would likely be happier being transformed into the ideal form that I am physically attracted to, then to meet that person.

 

Sometimes it's hard to see how you come off to other people because you aren't talking to a mirror, so it's kind of hard to say unless you knew ahead of time that the person was exactly like yourself. That aside, I would say yes haha for the most part, but like you said relationship wise - it would get boring. I like my ambition, but my work ethic is lazy and/or not consistent - it depends what it is. I'm also too deliberate, over analytic and future oriented. I wouldn't want that in a girl. However, I like my loyalty, dependabilty, kindness and responsibilty. Good traits to have in the opposite sex. An interesting challenge to the imagination... good thread.

 

Stuff your bra, and then look again

 

Lol! Actually, that one simple mind's test talks about who you'd be attracted to, and it kind of simplifies it for me. If I found me - the exact me - but in the opposite sex, I'd be fairly attracted to the person...as long as I didn't see their mess of a house.

But then, I think that I'd be frustrated with that person as well because there would be nothing challenging me, or helping me evolve as an individual. I don't need someone just like me.

 

To add to the thread a bit:
I often wonder if other people/types feel this way also? Ex: Does an ESTP look for a different type or does a less serious person look for a more serious person ect?

I would guess that extroverts look for other extroverts and introverts introverts, but then again E/I combo can work well too. I would also guess that Perceivers are less inclined to have strict criteria (a big generalization I know) and that Judgers are more inclined to have stricter criteria and are more precise when looking for someone. I think maybe a less serious person would also look for another fun loving soul instead of balancing out with a more serious person, but it all depends.

 

Well, to be honest, if we're talking types alone... I don't actually think I'd be happy with another INFJ. My ESFP husband is the perfect foil for my INFJ-ness.

I thought Satya meant would we be attracted to ourselves as individuals, rather than types but I might have gotten that wrong

 

I think I would be attracted, but it's so hard to say. Like others I started typing out a response and wasn't sure exactly.

I kind of pictured myself as just a woman looking at the real (male) me as a stranger off the street. I think I would like me. i would wonder why I was a bit insecure at times, but would come to see it as a lovable foible, and maybe even a good sign of humility. I think I would be pleased with me as a partner.....it's a tough (but very interesting) question to answer. Ill have to give it more thought.

 

No he did ask if we were attracted to ourselves as individuals. I don't want to derail this great thread, but just add to it. Maybe people can respond to both.

 

Hrm...I would probably think I was a bastard. "Look at that snobby, sarcastic little sh1t! Moody and so overdramatic about everything! Ugh!" Heh, but I'd probably be friends with my male self. I think I'm pretty cool as a person...but I am kinda distant, even with close friends/family. Trying to date myself would frustrate me.