ok but what about alternate activities? as in sport clubs for training i.e karate?
haha violent under it all? wouldnt of that of you
What do you like to do in the real world?
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ok but what about alternate activities? as in sport clubs for training i.e karate?
haha violent under it all? wouldnt of that of you
Are you saying my house isnt the real world!
lol Ok I have one friend...that's it one...I love her to peices. I go to her house and we drink...If were feeling adventurous we have been known to frequent the clubs. I socialize through her. She is ENFJ. I will take my daughter to the park, but I dont socialze with anyone there. I used to be a part of a local group, but I got used and thown aside when i got sick so im kindof in a protective social cacoon right now.
Yeah that's what I mean. But it'ss a club where we doing wrestling, grappling, boxing and all that. I know what you mean, it's not like pumping iron while I talk about my day! I went to the gym with my friend once (complete waste of time), turns out he only goes for the swimming pool!
Why? That's a good question. They just do.
Hm. The rowdy social events/clubs usually involve unpleasant, loud people who hit on you and then vomit, or pour a beer on your feet. Or hair.
The more refined social events involve various forms of posing and snobbery. They're loud, you usually can't hear much, and whatever people say is often not worth hearing anyway. Or the conversation involves cruel gossip about one of their so-called "friends" whom they choose to belittle, then when said "friend" reappears they're all nice again. Why would anyone want to be around people like that?
More than anything, though, social events force you to talk to or listen to People You Don't Know. Then when you want to get away from them, there is an awkward pause where you just sit there and smile like an idiot and try to think of a polite way to say "I'm leaving now."
Seriously, my stomach is hurting a bit just thinking about it.
Are you saying my house isnt the real world!
Ok I have one friend...that's it one...I love her to peices. I go to her house and we drink...If were feeling adventurous we have been known to frequent the clubs. I socialize through her. She is ENFJ. I will take my daughter to the park, but I dont socialze with anyone there. I used to be a part of a local group, but I got used and thown aside when i got sick so im kindof in a protective social cacoon right now.
ah yes used! been there!
Ive sort of started this thread, I like IN's but Its hard to find them, I dunno if you get on with EN's where easy to find.
Think its mad the way people seem so comfortable posting online instead of socialising with people.
If it wasnt for my voluntaring society and the friends i made from there, i would be insane right now!
I use to play soccer, but I dont fit into their culture even though all my friends growing up were S's, I wierd them out a little
ok can I say Im with you on that, the whole alcohol culture!
Also I go to clubs and I feel like I can hold a good quality of conversation, you cant really judge everyone just because of a few conversations gone bad, every once and a while admittedly I have a great conversation with a complete randomer, but alas its rare
Im talking about joining things that arent alcohol based! like social hobbies?
none has given me one yet!
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yea...as for the jitters...there's people there...lots of people. And lots of people means lots of chances for interaction, which can lead to ridicule. I also dont like being looked at, but thats my own personal hell. (I have super green eyes, and where ever I go people stare...)
ah ok! well not everyone is out to get you! I unfortunately sometimes think that,but then i reason with myself!
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INFJ and socialising are two mutually exclusive words that cannot co-exist in the same sentence, lest the universe implode in on itself due to its inability to comprehend such a profound and unfathomable occurrence..
Me? I enjoy reading, psychology, writing, and video games.
Video games is about the only thing on that list that you really could call a "social" hobby, and even then it depends entirely on the type of games that you play.
Me? I enjoy reading, psychology, writing, and video games.
Video games is about the only thing on that list that you really could call a "social" hobby, and even then it depends entirely on the type of games that you play.
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I will happily talk to people in the garden club. However, they are usually plant nerds such as myself, typically not intoxicated or snobbish. I like them! I also rather enjoy socializing with other mommies of young children, on a limited basis and as long as they are not snarky gossiping mommy-nazis.
Me too!
The reason that I get jittery in (new) social situations is because I don't feel like I have a whole lot in common with most people. I don't want to bore them or act the wrong way. And I dislike awkward silences. Don't we all?
ah my gym buddy INFP is very competetive we lift similar weights and are oberly competitive so its funny! neither one of us can walk they day after we go to the gym!
ok so far only 1 activity outside of infj self
thats you yield! and your gym (which isnt the most social of places)
I dont think anyone is out to get me...I just know Im strange, most people cant handle strange...but they are always interested in talking because well they like my eyes, im not being vain here, I dont think im attractive. I hate being approached for conversation based soley on the fact that my eyes are exotic looking. And thats the first thing people say. That and that I still look like im 18 so 18 year old try to hit on me...(Im almost thirty) Gosh now I sound like im making excuses....
hey I like video games! but i usually like playing with someone and not once again 'online friends'
hmm i give up on yas! I like INFJ's but they so fucking hard to find I iwsh I was an 'S'
there I said it!
haha do you know how many girls in the world would like to be hit on every once in a while?
when someone is going to chat you up, you have to fancy the person physically, otherwise why would you chat to someone you dont find attractive then after a great conversation go, see ya later
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I'm not talking about online games.
I'm talking about the regular sessions I have with my friends have in my place with Rock Band and Guitar Hero, or the many Xbox Live Arcade titles we enjoy playing together, or experiencing a new RPG in each other's company, or setting up a LAN session and blowing zombies up in Left 4 Dead.
That sort of thing.
That's extremely social.
So... what local pubs do you like to hang out in?smiffy said:
*smirks*
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