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Tips for online dating . . .

Naturally, I lead with my 'what's your archetype?' test result because 'The Destroyer' sounds badass.

Then, I match with three or four or two women I'm not particularly attracted to who always seem to like 'adventures', whatever the fuck that means. Then I give up and delete the app.
 
Naturally, I lead with my 'what's your archetype?' test result because 'The Destroyer' sounds badass.

Then, I match with three or four or two women I'm not particularly attracted to who always seem to like 'adventures', whatever the fuck that means. Then I give up and delete the app.
Hahahaha. Too real.

It feels like everyone is plastic out there.
 
Naturally, I lead with my 'what's your archetype?' test result because 'The Destroyer' sounds badass.

Then, I match with three or four or two women I'm not particularly attracted to who always seem to like 'adventures', whatever the fuck that means. Then I give up and delete the app.

You guys get matches? How's that work?
 
Gimme :D


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dating sites, reading profiles, judging online personalities, cautions, etc.

If you are a guy, welcome to the pool. You'll be answering to another 100 other guys on the same day. Just be yourself and be genuine in your interest and you'll do fine in your
first steps. Most conversations go nowhere, it's normal. And you can be a bit certain on your pursuit if you're interested. INFJ males: you have a major advantage -> you know how she feels, so just work on that.

If you are a woman, welcome to the shitfest that is dickpics and desperation. The "no ONS, only serious relationships, no FWB" bullshit gets old. Drop it.

1. First and last pictures are important, make it count. Take a nice shot from yourself and whatever you like to show you have something interesting to show.
2. Profile summary matters, be interesting.
3. Get an online profile, even if you don't want to. You'll be checked regardless of the bullshit you write on your dating app profile.
4. Personality is where it's at folks.

OKCupid works best, Tinder second, Bumble third, Happn is shit. Haven't tried the others.
 
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Make sure that when you take it further, your vision of how you want to live your life, aligns with hers.

Take Married at First Sight for example.
There was a couple there that hit of majorly well, it was clear they were it for each other.
Unfortunately, she was a city dwelling socialite from perth, and he was a cowboy on the other side of Australia in the middle of nowhere.

He wasn't able to relocate, and she wasn't emotionally capable of doing so. which pretty much turned the whole thing into a heart-rending train wreck that made everyone watching hate the so-called specialists that brought them together even more. (yes, I sometimes watch this sort of shit...)

When you date, and are doing so looking for a lifelong partner, make sure your future plans align and one of you is flexible enough in relocating when needed. Go for someone with who'm you have a lot in common as well, whilst opposites do attract, its usually over the very things they do have in common.

So yeah, If you feel like living in a hut in the middle of nowhere chopping wood and hunting elk or something, make sure your potential partner is up for that lifestyle. Likewise, if one of you is a major city type, make sure the other is too, or that suburbs or a nearby town suffice.

There is no point in continuing dating someone with long term intent, if your lifestyles and goals are incompatible. Compromise happens in every relationship, but the less compromise on both participants is needed the happier both parties will be.


I could try and give you other advice on apps n stuff but really, the others did that already, so I figured I might as well point out the things, you want to consider. The further you go with a potential partner the harder it will be when your interests don't align, and the more time you will have wasted on finding the right partner for you.

I suppose this is more advice for dating in general than online dating specifically, but it's something that you're better off keeping in mind.
 
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