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[INFJ] (gay dating) Meeting potential love interests outside of online methods

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    As a gay person, I’ve always fantasized of talking to a potential love interest offline.(something along the lines of hey i’m sorry if this comes up weird but i just think that you are the most beautiful person i’ve ever seen).

    I do realize that this is weird especially for us gays because there is a high chance of any guy i am talking to being straight which might make things uncomfortable for both parties and potentially offending some groups of people.

    As most gays are more used to meeting a potential love interest through online dating, I was wondering if there are exceptions.

    If anyone could share their experience meeting someone offline that would be great :)
     
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    Throughout university I encountered many LGBT+ organizations. Maybe look for such an organization.
     
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    I used to live in the "gay area" for a few years. It was mostly gay men and my roommate was a gay man. He spent a lot of time hanging out at different establishments and it was generally assumed that most men there were gay. He also established a network of gay friends in the area to get introduced to other people as well and he didn't have any trouble finding a variety of potential romantic interests.

    Not sure if you're in a big city or not that has little areas and villages like this but it's a good place to start if that's an option for you.
     
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    you know, a long story short, I have a friend (just friend) and we are friends from our childhood and recently he recognized that he is a gay. I wasn't annoyed or angry, I simply accepted this information, and then he complained that he can't find a partner, and as a result he asked me help him to find a partner... The only thing I could help him is to send him these site with the list of gay sugar daddy dating apps free, and you know, he found there a friend, and is dating with him. Frankly speaking, I'm happy for him, because he is my best friend even if he is gay now. Honestly I understand him, because it's difficult to find a partner in real life nowadays.
     
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    The struggle is so real. Dating in the 21st century is hard regardless and it sucks for everyone and so much more when you’re gay. I’ve had a lot of the same sorts of frustrations you’re describing, and all-too-often my “gaydar” gets confused with my “please-be-gaydar”. I think probably the most that’s ever happened to me is once or twice a really cute queer-coding girl has given me a lingering smile or bashful eyes. Nothing really to speak about.

    I will say though that all of my other gay friends, men and women and non-binary, have expressed a similar desire to have some significant spark in real life, so the best advice I could give you (that I’ve yet to act upon myself haha) is if you see someone you think might be interested, say hello!
     
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