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    When it comes to my personal life, I am the biggest procrastinator. I hold off making important phone calls, paying bills, sending birthday cards, laundry, haha you name it. With all things regarding work, I keep a steady pace and rarely get behind.

    What's up with that? Is it an infj trait or am I just lazyish?


     
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    I have no idea but I wish I could stop doing it. I know my stress level would go down a lot.
     
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    I have a friend, think he scores ISTJ, prioritizing stuff that affects other people over personal stuff that doesn't really regard other much. Thus procrastinating.
    I am like that too, when it comes to something involving people it will be done right away, usually. With other things I tend to procrastinate it.
    Dunno if its an infj thing though.
     
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    I am a stealth procrastinator. My friends/acquaintances have always regarded me as "the responsible one," and very dependable, but I'm always avoiding the things I don't want to do. It's weird, because I worry nonstop about things until I have finished them and/or have found some sense of closure (like, okay, I think my grade on this essay/project/whatever will be adequate to maintain an A; or, I think my boss will be satisfied with this work), but I seriously, seriously put things off much longer than I should, in my personal life and in work.

    I'm probably worse at putting social things off, however. With school or work, I know I have deadlines, so I'm better at finding a little structure. With communicating with my friends or family or whatever, I don't always get around to doing what needs to be done. I might put off responding to something as simple as a text message or a Facebook wall post for a week or two, and then I feel like responding would be stupid (great, once I finally think of the perfect response, right?). I'll put off calling a friend and asking them out to lunch or to see a movie, even if I know they'll agree to meet me. (This is one I, frankly, don't get. I know my friends want to hang out with me, but for some reason, I am always, nonetheless, afraid they will say "no." Irrational fear, much?)

    Perhaps having an avoidant personality is the INFJ thing in this situation and whether or not it's work/play depends on what is most threatening or unpleasant or _________ to the individual. Don't we try to avoid conflict by finding common ground with those we disagree we? It's not that much of a stretch to say it could carry over to a trait like this.
     
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    ^^THIS. But I have to say, I'm a stealth procrastinator (I like that term) at everything I see as "less important". This usually happens when I'm entrenched with something that weighs heavily on my mind. If I'm worried about One Big Thing then everything takes a back seat to that Big Thing. Which can be bad if "everything" is important at the same time.

    If that makes sense. :p
     
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    I procrastinate on everything unless I'm actually looking forward to doing it. Something always kicks me into gear at the last minute, however, because I always get stuff done on time...usually just barely on time, but still on time.
     
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    this too!
    I can procrastinate things for weeks!
    especially confronting people about anything. That I can procrastinate forever hehe.

    dam.. Wish I had a thousand posts then my title would be stealth procrastinator :m027:
     
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    I don't know if it's an INFJ thing, but I used to procrastinate mostly as means to avoid the feelings of anxiety I would feel with certain people/situations. There were also other reasons such as unproductive habits I had developed, a lack of skills, and general unhappiness, but anxiety probably topped the list.
     
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    Sounds like alot of you guys may procrastinate to avoid confrontations, which I'll admit deep down is my problem in the relationship/communicating/responsibility area:m051:. I think it's not so much the fact that I will hurt someone or will have to fight (well it is) but even worse I will have to admit personal failure when it's done.

    Still don't know why I put mundane chores off though lol. I guess I'll write that off as laziness. Scratch that, I'm a fulltime working mom and wife, going to school; I'm just exhausted!
     
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    About Procrastinating..........

    I like this thread. I can't post right now, but I'll get something on here at a later date........
     
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    Procrastination has always been a problem for me, though I always get things done eventually. You can't get me to do anything unless there's a boot to my rear, or I'm anxious about something.

    Though as under_skies had posted, I always seemed to get pinned as the "responsible, hard-working" one, too. It's puzzling.
     
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    its what im doing right now....
     
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    Procrastination! Lack of concentration! lalala lala

    but seriously I get the same thing. I procrastinate so much but everyone thinks I'm so responsible and organized. Maybe because I get everything done on time even if its last minute on time. hmm...
     
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    Haha SpaceCowgirl, I have always been called a space cadet, by everyone!

    I do get things done work and schoolwise, and yes, people say I'm responsible too and I think you clearly don't know me!
     
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    Smarty!

    Haha!
     
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    There is already a thread on INFJ and procrastination but I cannot find the link. Someone please link it...
     
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    I must say I totally agree with what everyone is saying! I get things done on time, but leave it till the last minute and I procrastinate a lot of the time. Thing is I have things to do but one thing may totally take up my time, so I put the other things off.

    Must be an INFJ thing!
     
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    I am probably going to be a homeless person someday.
    There are so many things I just don't feel like doing.
    I'm more than capable of getting them done, I just don't wanna.

    To be honest and share a bit of my neurosis here, I'm probably just self-sabotaging with my procrastination because I'm afraid to lock myself into a decision or commitment.
     
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    Hmmmmm. I tend to procrastinate things that I consider not that important at the moment and never do this with important things. I use some kind of gradation and put different level of priority to my tasks so I can see how long I can wait before I start working with each of them. Also I tend to procrastinate a bit when the task is very complex and requires careful planning and so on - this is because I prefer to be prepared and give my best for the best possible results. I rush only for things I am absolutely sure about. If I know that writing this report will take me roughly 2 weeks and the report is very important, I start working on it even earlier. I really hate to leave things for the last possible minute, something that my INTJ partner often does (being sure that he is in control). I double-check and tripple-check things, he never does. Same applies for being punctual when I have a meeting or appointment. I am usually there 15 minutes in advance and I get frustrated at people who are late. Let's say my train leaves 10:30, I am at the train station at 10 the latest (and consider myself being late!) while my dear husband will pop up 10:25 with no stress at all. When he asked me why do I have to be there so early, I say that I like to have some time "in case something happens" like an unexpected traffic jam and so on.
     
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    I'm still thinking here........I'll have an answer eventually!
     
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