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I'm going to college September, and I'm worried that I'll be lost in the crowds. My high school has 2500 students, which I already think is too big, but Rutgers is 10 times as big. How is college life for INFJs?
 
I LOVE college. I also went to a very large highschool (3000 students), but I sort of liked that environment. Everything wasn't under the microscope, and a large school gives more to offer.

For college though I wanted to go far away. I am native to New Jersey, and decided to go to Montana State University (12000 students). I was nervous about going, but also extremely excited. It was a whole new place, in a whole new academic environment. While college has been the most emotionally taxing portion of my life, it is truly where I want to be. I sort of never want college to end. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

It has also made me grow SO much as a person, and learn so much about myself. Being so far from home has helped that, because I can't pick up and go home. Also, old friends and family can't come find me to impose obligations on me.

I am sure you are going to love college, it seems like a wonderful environment for INFJ's. At time it can be painful, but that goes without saying.

In a nutshell, I LOVE college.
 
I go to college as well and we have thousands of students. I LOVE college, a lot better than high school actually. You get to be more independent and make your own choices. Also, you meet all different kinds of people who you learn a lot from. It's a very different world. It's nothing like high school if you ask me. In high school, people were much more superficial and sometimes very immature and I never liked that atmosphere. But college is something else.
 
I think I made a bad decision and went to really superficial university. We have like 16,000. But I wish I would have chosen to go to the university that has 50,000! Haha~! There's definitely more of a variety in people there ^^.
I know I should try to be more outgoing and do things, but the roommate life is pretty dismal; I've just had morbidly bad luck. :/ In comparison to high school, the classes are lot more interesting and have less busy work... usually :p.

There is definitely so much room to grow as a person when you go to college. Just do things! You won't be lost in the crowds~ :)
 
Sorry, I had to do it...**DISCLAIMER:**

I neither agree with the sentiments in this video, nor do I like its depiction of women. That being said...

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But seriously, I think college is where we can thrive as INFJs. I was ok with my undergrad - but my Masters program is absolutely the best. I love college...but not for the same reason as that video. :D
 
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I miss it.

There are often so many ways to get involved with something. And the more people there are, the higher the chances that you'll find more people you enjoy :)
 
College is a little bit of a let-down for me. It has been very good, but it still is a bit of a let down. I suppose that my case is unique.

I don't think you'll be lost in the crowds at a school of 2500. That is relatively small. You'll probably meet a lot of great people and have a great time too. Be happy that you aren't at some 20, 30, or 40 thousand student school where you really would be lost in the crowd.
 
Depends on the college.

The best way to "not get lost in the crowd" is to step away from the crowd and do something different. Join a club. Do campus activities.

I love college. College is what you make of it.
 
I missed my opportunity to go, If I could do over my younger years I would go. Though i cant give any insight on the actual attendance of college I say its better to go than to regret not going later!
 
I love university. I'm doing it externally online, but I've got access to all the same materials and resources as if I were there, thanks to the Interwebs.

The social aspect is unnecessary, I've got porn.
 
IndigoSensor said:
I LOVE college. I also went to a very large highschool (3000 students), but I sort of liked that environment. Everything wasn't under the microscope, and a large school gives more to offer.

For college though I wanted to go far away. I am native to New Jersey, and decided to go to Montana State University (12000 students). I was nervous about going, but also extremely excited. It was a whole new place, in a whole new academic environment. While college has been the most emotionally taxing portion of my life, it is truly where I want to be. I sort of never want college to end. I wouldn't trade it for the world.

It has also made me grow SO much as a person, and learn so much about myself. Being so far from home has helped that, because I can't pick up and go home. Also, old friends and family can't come find me to impose obligations on me.

I am sure you are going to love college, it seems like a wonderful environment for INFJ's. At time it can be painful, but that goes without saying.

In a nutshell, I LOVE college.
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No way Im from Bozeman! I signed up for MSU but at the last min. ended up going to a private Minnesota school instead. For an entp I feel like the 2,500 people here makes it feel like highschool (about the same class size) I some times wonder what it would be like to be at a bigger school.. ie:MSU.. but after living in the same town for 16 years I had to explore
 
greenapple said:
No way Im from Bozeman! I signed up for MSU but at the last min. ended up going to a private Minnesota school instead. For an entp I feel like the 2,500 people here makes it feel like highschool (about the same class size) I some times wonder what it would be like to be at a bigger school.. ie:MSU.. but after living in the same town for 16 years I had to explore
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Haha, small world. Mabye we will run into eachother over the summer, since I will be in bozeman to do research.
 
Hey there!

Hahahaha---I really did have to face this last year. Now, i'm a freshman at a liberal arts college on the east coast. I'm surprised you chose Rutgers when there are many other smaller colleges out there! I think liberal arts colleges are especially good for people who are afraid of "bigness" or the institutionalized education (that always seems to be soo bureaucratic).

I kept this preference in mind and I think I made a great choice---Although it's difficult for all INFJs to settle in anywhere (it's just that we're complex people, so such things take lots of thought). I've changed a lot in certain ways, in other ways, not so much. The idea of independence actually, affected me in much more ways than i'd ever imagined. It was hard in the beginning for me, because I kept questioning my identity. Who am I? This is especially hard because all of the things you used to identify with, are gone.

You've got to stand in the middle of this stretch of air and define yourself. Of course, it isn't that scary and that apparent I guess, but there has been a sense of questioning every month i've been here. But that being said, i'm sure i'll be getting through this stage eventually (I have moved onto stabler grounds for that matter). I've become stronger, more confident in who I am, and really getting antsy about a career now!!! :) good luck....but relax. Try to. If you don't like Rutgers, you can always transfer! Nothing is set in stone.
 
Dragon said:
College is a little bit of a let-down for me. It has been very good, but it still is a bit of a let down. I suppose that my case is unique.
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College was a let-down initially for me too, but then they actually started teaching me stuff, instead of reteaching me everything from high school. Now, it's cool.
 
Would I be happy here?

I'm going to college next year, and I'm an INFJ. The college I'm going to is pretty small (3000 students), very highly-ranked academically, and students are very intellectual and participate a lot in politics and the arts (both of which I enjoy). Many go on to do Teach for America or the Peace Corps, which I really like. Students are often described as "passionate". I remember visiting and being immediately, intuitively attracted to the friendly, witty, open nature of students, but in retrospect I'm worried that this might mean that they lack complexity or sincerity. I'm probably over-analyzing, but I thought I'd ask you guys for an opinion.
There are many dances and parties, people say (although this is true at all colleges, I guess), but there are other things to do too, like plays and bands and just hanging out. I'm obviously not a fan of raucous social life, though...
Will being around friendly, comfortable-with-themselves, extroverted people (who share my interests) be good for me? Will I appreciate it when they reach out to me, or will I become even more introverted as a result?
(Please give me the answer I'm looking for).
Here are the profiles of some of their students, maybe you guys can do some INFJ magic and get a sense of what kind of people they are: http://www.wesleyan.edu/admission/seniors/album.html
Their faces seem very open, to me, if that makes sense.
Please let me know what you think, fellow INFJs! Do you have close friends that you really do share an intimate emotional relationship with, even though they are more extroverted? (Maybe ENFPs or something?)
Thanks again.

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Many use drugs too (mostly weed). Not the majority or anything, but more than average. I definitely don't want to partake because I know I'd get addicted really easily and it's just not my thing. But lots of people I have connected with in my past now smoke weed, so maybe I just connect well with smokers? Who knows. People emphasize that at this college there is NO pressure to use drugs whatsoever, because the general idea is that everyone should just let others do, or not do, as they please (as long as they are using, and not abusing, that is). I guess it's okay with me... What college campus doesn't have drugs? But I am a little wary.
 
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