My sense is that with those you are emotionally invested in, you make choices that make you exceptionally easy to please. Any gesture made toward you is received positively — to my sense, more positively than the average person would receive the gesture, and certainly more positively than you receive actions from those you are not emotionally invested in.
To my observation, those you are not emotionally invested in — people as abstraction, such as random drivers — do not get this same benefit. In contrast, my sense is that your level of expectation for their behavior is almost impossibly high and your threshold for irritation with their failure to live up to these high standards is quite low. In this sense you are very difficult to please, but as soon as people become known to you, they generally move out of that abstracted categorization and become someone you are emotionally invested in to some degree.
One caveat is that even with those you are emotionally invested in, you can shift to the second engagement style when in a defensive position. That is very difficult to live with.