Thanks so much, Razare, what you said is really helpful. I have a fair amount of patience and I'm certainly willing to wait and defer to him for leadership. He is rather a good looking fellow, and
plenty of other girls have attempted to make him theirs. He told my brother how annoying (though flattering) it is that girls are always falling all over him, but that I was different and never did that. As far as I'm concerned, he's well worth waiting for.
Questingpoet, you're right, we do have a very similar sense of humor. It's like we notice all the same things and find them funny, but see them in different ways. It's the weirdest thing. And this:
You're an INTJ. Your ability to convey impractical and impersonal bluntness in a smirking manner is miles above many of the other types.
is certainly true. =p
As to whether or not he's attracted to me physically, of course, I can't be certain, but I'm inclined to think he is. I'm not exactly horrible looking. I can't read people too well mostly, but judging by the general way guys look and attractive girls, I can be fairly confident. And other people have told me a couple comments he made, like when I first straightened my hair last year and wore a sort of throwback skating outfit, he was super awkward and my friend said after I left, he was like, "Wow. She looks pretty." and everyone else was like, "yeah..ok?" So, there's my evidence, anyway.
If a guy is really interested he will find a way of letting it known.
Generally, I would say you're right. And chances are, he has made it known as reasonably as he can think to. But keep in mind, I'm an INTJ. I don't always pick up on subtleties and when I do, I usually don't believe it until it's bluntly and abundantly clear.
So my next question I guess would be what kinds of things do you INFJ guys like talking about? I usually can't think of anything to say for a real conversation until I just come out with these weird abstract, random questions about people's souls or theoretical situations or whatever. Since he seems more concerned with whether or not I'm happy where we are than he is about what we talk about in particular, it's hard to tell what will get him interested and involved in a conversation.
Maybe it's just my INTJ strategy and perfectionism, but it seems like there should be a reasonable plan to be able to make conversations work. It's easier with with my female, extroverted friends with whom I'm not afraid to be a goofball..
And thanks everyone for your insights, I appreciate it immensely.