INFJ and living alone?
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LOL! I had a Devon Rex for a good number of years, and I loved him despite my allergies. But FYI: the allergens really come from a cat's saliva, not their fur. That's why some folks can still be allergic to animals with little to no fur.
*Raises hand with a sneeze*
*Raises hand with a sneeze*
They do look cool. 
And it really depends on how sensitive you are to the allergen. If you're not that sensitive, then a hairless one or a Rex will probably be fine for you. My allergies to cats gradually got worse over time. I grew up with cats but by the time I reached my 20s I could no longer be near one (asthmatic attacks). I tried the ones purported to be "allergy free" (hence my Rex!) and I was "okay" for a while. But I eventually had to give him to my mother due to my reactions.
And it really depends on how sensitive you are to the allergen. If you're not that sensitive, then a hairless one or a Rex will probably be fine for you. My allergies to cats gradually got worse over time. I grew up with cats but by the time I reached my 20s I could no longer be near one (asthmatic attacks). I tried the ones purported to be "allergy free" (hence my Rex!) and I was "okay" for a while. But I eventually had to give him to my mother due to my reactions. 
...and when you take them for a walk, you don't have to worry about them ripping the leash from your hand and running off chasing another turtle in heat.
My sister had a terrapin and they can move surprisingly fast on land.
I share your sentiments. It's not that I don't like living with people.. but if they are in my room? It just doesn't work out, though I've put effort into it by compromising of course, but no one seems to want to reciprocate. Everything is strained and awkward though she is friendly. Both sets of roommates I've gotten have been my exact opposites! Extremely messy (not just a little bit of stuff, it's incredible!), overflowing trash, late nights with lots of people and very loud, and just a general disharmony that I can't quite explain.
Hopefully next year single rooms are a possibility but I don't even know.. It's really terrifying to imagine a repeat of this. Energy is completely drained from the mess and darkness x.x Dreaming of living in my own little closet size room *o*
Hopefully next year single rooms are a possibility but I don't even know.. It's really terrifying to imagine a repeat of this. Energy is completely drained from the mess and darkness x.x Dreaming of living in my own little closet size room *o*
I live alone, have for over 10 years. Does it have its benefits? Absolutely! When I started to get lonely, I bought a cat and two cockatiels. At times my place can be a miniature Jerry Springer episode, but the joys of having something, anything happy to see you and not be obtrusive is a joy.
Which leads me to sharing my home with someone else. When my ex lived with me I found the loudness (Major extrovert) overwhelming as well as the lack of sensitivity to my thought processes. So an extrovert of that magnitude - no way. I'm pretty sure I'd be fine with someone as long as they had a firm N to work from and employed a little mutual empathy and communication as well as depth.
In the end, I suppose its about a complimentary fit.
But roomates, (vision: Darth Vader yelling 'Noooooooo') I've found I'm much happier and centered NOT having one. My home is my sanctuary from the world, where I can be at peace.
Which leads me to sharing my home with someone else. When my ex lived with me I found the loudness (Major extrovert) overwhelming as well as the lack of sensitivity to my thought processes. So an extrovert of that magnitude - no way. I'm pretty sure I'd be fine with someone as long as they had a firm N to work from and employed a little mutual empathy and communication as well as depth.
In the end, I suppose its about a complimentary fit.
But roomates, (vision: Darth Vader yelling 'Noooooooo') I've found I'm much happier and centered NOT having one. My home is my sanctuary from the world, where I can be at peace.
I am a bit jealous of those with pets, but I am allergic to fur and feather type animals. It isn't just the fur, it is dander and saliva as well. I have become less sentimental about animals as a result. Unfortunately most of my friends have cats and rats so I just don't go over there any more. My kids want me to get a fish. "You can put it in the bathtub." Maybe, but I'm not sharing my bath stuff.
Note: The following is my thoughts on living alone, plus a lonely rant, so bear with me. This thread makes me feel like I'm a weird INFJ. I'm highly introverted but I hate it when I have to live by myself. I'm currently living alone for about a week and I'm feeling really lonely right now even though I had friends staying with me for most of the weekend. I have a cat but she's quite introverted so she likes being by herself a lot. Are there any other INFJs who feel the same way?
Been there. There's a great difference between solitude and 'aloneness' or lonliness. Solitude is something we seek, where lonliness is a result of not feeling a part of or 'belonging to'.
But what you do have is freedom.
And that's scary.
You get to decide how your life goes without anybody telling you what to do or having anyone to give guidance. This is probably where the part of feelings come from.
But what you do have is freedom.
And that's scary.
You get to decide how your life goes without anybody telling you what to do or having anyone to give guidance. This is probably where the part of feelings come from.