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I also like to slap my belly in impromptu hakas while wearing this get up. This is who I am.
[INFJ] Friends or something more?
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It's not overthinking .. I rather call it thinking and planning aheadOh boy. You are worse than me
Not really, about the same level of overthinking I'd say
I suppose i should just forget about him, let's be honest he won't write me if he hasn't done it by now
@BlackHorse
It just occurred to me that today is an excellent reason/excuse to get in touch. I mean, it wouldn't be strange to wish each other Happy New Year, would it?
If that's any encouragement/perspective, I'm planning to do precisely that with a romantic interest of mine.
It's not overthinking .. I rather call it thinking and planning ahead
I suppose i should just forget about him, let's be honest he won't write me if he hasn't done it by now
Sure, sure... it's not overthinking, not at all all
"He won't write me", "he didn't like my insta pic".... you are giving him too much power. He probably wouldn't want that, by the way, it's pressure.
You know, he's just a human being who eats and poops at the end of the day. Maybe picturing him taking a big poo would help you de-idealise him a bit?
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Ha! I always figured you were anal retentive.
@BlackHorse
If that's any encouragement/perspective, I'm planning to do precisely that with a romantic interest of mine.
I want to hear back on this and whether you've used your own advice?
@BlackHorse
If the friendship means that much to you, then suffer through your liking of the other person until you come out the other side.
I have had a friend that have turned to more and I've expressed my desires and it has ruined the friendship which I valued more. I also had a friend that I did not express my feelings for. Instead I suffered through perhaps two or three years of having these intense feelings for that person. Eventually my feelings stabilised and thirty years on I now count her as my closest and dearest friend.
I'm all for love blossoming (I am a hopeless romantic) and would have told you to go for it when you first posted. But if you truly think the friendship is what counts here, then telling them how you feel may change the dynamic of the friendship. One person always feels that they have an upper hand and will perhaps take advantage of it or in not taking advantage of it, withdraw somewhat to avoid the hurt they might inflict on their "friend". All of a sudden you lose a potential relationship as well as possibly the friendship.
If the friendship means that much to you, then suffer through your liking of the other person until you come out the other side.
I have had a friend that have turned to more and I've expressed my desires and it has ruined the friendship which I valued more. I also had a friend that I did not express my feelings for. Instead I suffered through perhaps two or three years of having these intense feelings for that person. Eventually my feelings stabilised and thirty years on I now count her as my closest and dearest friend.
I'm all for love blossoming (I am a hopeless romantic) and would have told you to go for it when you first posted. But if you truly think the friendship is what counts here, then telling them how you feel may change the dynamic of the friendship. One person always feels that they have an upper hand and will perhaps take advantage of it or in not taking advantage of it, withdraw somewhat to avoid the hurt they might inflict on their "friend". All of a sudden you lose a potential relationship as well as possibly the friendship.
HUH???!!!
Gee I always thought being a girl made everything easier! All girls have to do is click their fingers and a hundred guys come a running (yeah you have to sift through the shit to find the pearls ). A guy clicks his fingers and .. meh! Nothing!
It'd make things different, not easier. For example, you could pee standing, but there's also the downside of your penis touching the toilet water if you sit down.
He doesn't know he has the power tho
Hmm, maybe not. But there's a risk this might define the dynamics of the relationship for the time to come and that wouldn't be good.
Maybe i don't want to de-idealise him
INFP spotted
Seriously though, I get you, but again, just be aware that you might be putting yourself in an emotionally vulnerable position by indulging in those fantasies. It's the other side of the coin of the pleasure they otherwise provide.
Honestly i have no idea where i even stand with him now. Right now I'm close to being done with him... At least I'm trying to be. Tell him or not to tell him comes after we start (IF we start) seeing each other again.
Yeaaahh that's exactly the downside. What INFJ likes to sift through shit lol it includes small talk
