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I feel the communal vibe here has been in a state of transformation. Not of the forum itself, but that many members have been experiencing pensive, reflective times that are leading to greater insights to push towards growth and healing.

Which is very often the vibe of this forum since that's what the folks here love to do, but I will add:

Maybe two months ago in accordance with the world shifts there was a lot of heightened anxiety and riffraff, tiffs, people were stepping on each other's toes and lots of people had retreated to their blogs. It was a time of self preservation and funnily enough self isolation within the forum.

Now I sense that cloud lifting. Everyone's come out of hibernation for the winter and are exploring what exists. But we've found unexpected shifts within ourselves that have to be addressed, and for whatever reason, this adjustment is extremely painful on a personal level.

Meaning that in general I've seen a lot of folks trying to piece themselves together, for a better them, but to do so they're having to break the arm to realign the bone to be straight if that makes sense.

Exciting time and once the painful aspect is over the results with be incredibly transformative and healing for everyone involved
 
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slant said:
I feel the communal vibe here has been in a state of transformation. Not of the forum itself, but that many members have been experiencing pensive, reflective times that are leading to greater insights to push towards growth and healing.

Which is very often the vibe of this forum since that's what the folks here love to do, but I will add:

Maybe two months ago in accordance with the world shifts there was a lot of heightened anxiety and riffraff, tiffs, people were stepping on each other's toes and lots of people had retreated to their blogs. It was a time of self preservation and funnily enough self isolation within the forum.

Now I sense that cloud lifting. Everyone's come out of hibernation for the winter and are exploring what exists. But we've found unexpected shifts within ourselves that have to be addressed, and for whatever reason, this adjustment is extremely painful on a personal level.

Meaning that in general I've seen a lot of folks trying to piece themselves together, for a better them, but to do so they're having to break the arm to realign the bone to be straight if that makes sense.

Exciting time and once the painful aspect is over the results with be incredibly transformative and healing for everyone involved
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Yep.

That lines up with my sense, too.
 
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slant said:
I feel the communal vibe here has been in a state of transformation. Not of the forum itself, but that many members have been experiencing pensive, reflective times that are leading to greater insights to push towards growth and healing.

Which is very often the vibe of this forum since that's what the folks here love to do, but I will add:

Maybe two months ago in accordance with the world shifts there was a lot of heightened anxiety and riffraff, tiffs, people were stepping on each other's toes and lots of people had retreated to their blogs. It was a time of self preservation and funnily enough self isolation within the forum.

Now I sense that cloud lifting. Everyone's come out of hibernation for the winter and are exploring what exists. But we've found unexpected shifts within ourselves that have to be addressed, and for whatever reason, this adjustment is extremely painful on a personal level.

Meaning that in general I've seen a lot of folks trying to piece themselves together, for a better them, but to do so they're having to break the arm to realign the bone to be straight if that makes sense.

Exciting time and once the painful aspect is over the results with be incredibly transformative and healing for everyone involved
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Yes, this^
 
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SpecialEdition said:
PPL WANT 2 B PART OF THE INNER CIRCLE AND FIT IN SIMPLE
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Yeah.

I'm still not certain about why it would be weird or creepy, though.
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I dunno my infj friend reacts very differently than my intj friend does.

Like I'll tell my infj friend something about how I'm concerned about x y z about a person and he'll be very dismissive and be like "we need to love and accept everybody, we're a community!"

Then I'll tell the same thing to my intj friend and she'll be like "you're right those are red flags keep an eye on that one"

So there's definitely a different view from fe to fi
 
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slant said:
Like I'll tell my infj friend something about how I'm concerned about x y z about a person and he'll be very dismissive and be like "we need to love and accept everybody, we're a community!"

Then I'll tell the same thing to my intj friend and she'll be like "you're right those are red flags keep an eye on that one"
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Seems more like a gender thing to me in this case.

Men don't have such an insistent fear/self-protection instinct.

On the other hand, maybe it's a type thing, I don't know.
 
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Seems more like a gender thing to me in this case.

Men don't have such an insistent fear/self-protection instinct.

On the other hand, maybe it's a type thing, I don't know.
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Good point.

But the pattern is mostly that it seems like INTJs are more inclined to be okay with self preservation and in a way "keeping the self separate" from the group. Infjs I've met identify with the health of a group that's important to them almost more than their own health at times. So it's the difference between individualism and socialism.

So the fear of this going "bad" and creating hurt feelings trumps free expression.

I feel like it's fine and I enjoy it because I assumed it was similar to like psychic card drawing or ritual meditating on something- you know, we're having fun, sharing our vague "impressions" and "feelings". It never occurred to me that people would tag people or try to make it specific and cause drama, or post ominous negative things.

Like you I thought,

"Oh wouldn't this be fun!"

That's fi my friend
 
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slant said:
Good point.

But the pattern is mostly that it seems like INTJs are more inclined to be okay with self preservation and in a way "keeping the self separate" from the group. Infjs I've met identify with the health of a group that's important to them almost more than their own health at times. So it's the difference between individualism and socialism.

So the fear of this going "bad" and creating hurt feelings trumps free expression.

I feel like it's fine and I enjoy it because I assumed it was similar to like psychic card drawing or ritual meditating on something- you know, we're having fun, sharing our vague "impressions" and "feelings". It never occurred to me that people would tag people or try to make it specific and cause drama, or post ominous negative things.

Like you I thought,

"Oh wouldn't this be fun!"

That's fi my friend
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I think you're probably right.

I'm really keen to hear an explanation if anyone feels inclined because I'm still somewhat in the dark about it.

I kind of have a vague impression of it being related to the ostracism of Ni, but I'm not sure.
 
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I don't think that the vibe of the forum is any big secret. I see a consistent pattern of how certain subject matter seems to spring up all at once.

Usually it starts with a member posting something and getting some engagement and then it kind of branches off into blogs or private conversations and depending on the subject matter it can be uplifting, it can be draining, it can be agitating, etc.

I do this all the time. I might see something here that sparks something in me that I feel inclined to share and then the chain begins. Similarly if I come on the forum and pop into a few threads and just see arguments then I think wow, I can't wait to fight someone today lol. Jk.

I don't think it's all that deep or complicated.

I think where people may be feeling weird about having an open discussion about the blog as an intuitive exercise is that we can't get away from the sense that maybe we're being watched and observed and it can influence how people post.

There has always been an ebb and flow here. Everyone loves each other. Everyone fights each other. Everyone low key wants to fuck and weirdly flirt, everyone shares their sad feelings or things they're going through and it just rolls through. Always has, always will.

I'm not sure what there is to say about it beyond that.
 
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SpecialEdition said:
There has always been an ebb and flow here. Everyone loves each other. Everyone fights each other. Everyone low key wants to fuck and weirdly flirt, everyone shares their sad feelings or things they're going through and it just rolls through. Always has, always will.
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This description :tearsofjoy:

No I don't think it's mysterious either, but worth bearing investigation as an interesting feature of the place imo.

What I'm failing to understand is where the uncomfortability (what a clunky word) is coming from - it might be like you say from some people feeling like they're being watched, which I suppose I'm not connecting with because I had no privacy growing up.

I'm almost rolling my eyes at it; at the sheer level of unfounded sensitivity.
 
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