Absolutely. We went through a rough cycle of passive aggression and repressed hate. I still feel guilty about it sometimes but it's just what it is. Now, it's pretty stable. I just don't trust my self enough to ever be friends with him again.
[ENFP] Does she like me? Do you guys ever take a week alone time from someone you love?
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Absolutely. We went through a rough cycle of passive aggression and repressed hate. I still feel guilty about it sometimes but it's just what it is. Now, it's pretty stable. I just don't trust my self enough to ever be friends with him again.
Oh, I wasn't implying that meant she liked me. I was just saying we still do talk a lot, at least for me.
Yes, we had a video chat where we...ya know...did stuff... actually, we had many of those. She's sent me nude pictures (she told me she's never done that for anyone else before). We've talked dirty, been intimate, stuff like that. We still are, to be honest.
She's watched me orgasm, I've watched her orgasm. Etc. Etc. Etc
Ow... Well i'm kind of conservative, Catholic and all, so I don't know about her. This can't just be rebound sex right? I mean, do INFJs do the rebound thing? I would sort of think this would be somewhat beneath our moral high ground. But that's just me.
No idea. The video chatting stuff was more in the beginning, but I'll still talk about it with her and have no issues, though not as much as we used to. I can still get her horny if I try, and have her admit it.
She also talked about kissing me when I get there, which is less intimate, but for me, considering I've only kissed like 2-3 people in my life, it's very intimate.
Huh. This is truly interesting. Wait it out. By the way, how much would you say you know her?
I would say I know her quite a bit, but how much can you ever really know an INFJ. She told me about abuse in her past, how her boyfriend cheated on her multiple times. She told me about a variety of personality problems she has and how she tries to change them. It's hard for me to judge how well I know her, based on the fact that the connection I have with her is so intense that I feel like I know her very well, while simultaneously having no idea how well I truly know her.
How sometimes, she ends up hurting people unintentionally and hates herself for it, and tries to stop doing it. How she sometimes tries to fix people, then realizes how the only person she can ever really improve is herself. Stuff that didn't seem that serious to me.
Oh that's serious to the INFJ. We don't usually admit our vulnerabilities unless we feel safe. Hmm. You may have a chance here
But this whole her being in love recently is not a very good sign though
I'm willing to wait. I just don't think I can stress enough how much she means to me. I think I've made it obvious that she's very important to me.Oh that's serious to the INFJ. We don't usually admit our vulnerabilities unless we feel safe. Hmm. You may have a chance here
But this whole her being in love recently is not a very good sign though
I... ahem... wait tho. I have. ONLINE and TEXT only! I don't sleep around, its just like Skype calls and stuff... of course the attraction has to be there, even if only a little. But I'm usually a pretty sexual person, and if single, will engage in some fun whether I like them or not, sometimes. Not a lot, but I have been known to. Anyway, I'm just saying, if she is craving something sexual... she could be getting that from him even if she doesn't like him that much. In fact, it could be a reason she wants to keep him around. Of course, it is WAY better if there are feelings involved, but when horny, those feelings don't HAVE to be there lol.(Can I die now, because I know this makes me sound horrible!)
Well then, good luck folk! I wish you all the best. Oh i hope this would be a happy ending.
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Oh boy, I have to be honest: I don't understand either you, or her. The thing I don't understand is the lack of romantic exclusivity. I'm sure that people can have multiple crushes, but I don't understand those who can talk to multiple people romantically/sexually. The fact that her romantic attention can be divided like this at all is all kinds of red flags for me.
The threesome suggestion is her way of psychologically squaring the fact that she's been intimate with other men - if she can see you being romantic with another woman, then she feels less bad about having done the same to you. She's trying to normalise the idea of non-exclusivity. This same thing happened to me after my ex cheated.
I'm sorry, man, but she sounds shady to me, however she feels about you, and I wouldn't trust a woman with psychological makeup like that. You're being strung along as an 'option' in my opinion.
The threesome suggestion is her way of psychologically squaring the fact that she's been intimate with other men - if she can see you being romantic with another woman, then she feels less bad about having done the same to you. She's trying to normalise the idea of non-exclusivity. This same thing happened to me after my ex cheated.
I'm sorry, man, but she sounds shady to me, however she feels about you, and I wouldn't trust a woman with psychological makeup like that. You're being strung along as an 'option' in my opinion.
Don't worry - men tend to get attached quicker anyway because we have nothing to lose, and I'd probably be feeling the same as you in your situation.
LOL! There, there. We are all animals to a certain degree.
I don't want to be a party pooper and I don't like being one of those people who back off on my pompoms but Hos is on to something here. This is the amount of damage that you need to prepare for. If you are still willing, then I wish you all the best.
While you may be right, some of those definitely seem like assumptions that you're applying based on your past experiences. Not all of them of course, but some of them
Also, as I said, I'm already prepared for heartbreak. It's whatever, if it happens, I'll be able to go back out there in a week or two and flirt with other people. Of course I'll still think about her sometimes, and miss her, but flirting with others is how I move on.
Hey, she might never message me again anyway! I might be worrying my ass for absolutely no reason. So it's a waiting game now
Oooooh that is possibly your P in your ENFP talking. Are you okay with a polyamorous setting?
(I'm probably wrong but I'm getting some INTP vibes from you based on the way you interact in this forum).
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Of course, but as @sassafras pointed out, I'm just playing a role in how the community gives out advice here, and it's all clarifying.
Your less favourable reactions to the cynical/negative advice (typically from men who've been hurt by such fickle women) indicates that it isn't what you wanted to hear, but at least you seem more prepared for the worst now.
I wish you all the best