Sorry for taking so long to respond to your visitor message. I'm not going to lie, I'm kinda in the same position now with an ENFP and it's driving me nutty. I know how you feel lol. It's so perplexing but interesting. I only wanted to offer my view on what your INTP might be thinking to help you out. I know how much of a risk and effort both of you are taking in attempting a relationship.