It ends with the woman saying, "I only think of you as a friend" and the guy leaves. Then the guy meeting the next girl and starting the monologue all over again.
and then she says 'yes' and they live happily ever after
It ends with the woman saying, "I only think of you as a friend" and the guy leaves. Then the guy meeting the next girl and starting the monologue all over again.
Inspired to write porn... interesting.
No to make fun of the stupidity that says that attraction must be acted upon and that somehow feeling it toward other's with no intent to act upon it is wrong somehow.
attraction works on different levels
I just don't see why friends can't be intimate if they both want to
I agree. If they both want it then they should go for it. I think the problem is when one person reads too much into the "friendly" compatibility and wants more...the other person, not so much.
In an ideal world the person would feel flattered that someone has expressed interest, but let the person down gently without crushing them and they would continue as friends
But in a world where everyone makes such a big deal out of everything and creates so much presure people are less likely to be philosophical or magnanimous
I am sure it still plays out like that quite often.
hallelujia (don't know if i spelt that right)
Lol, it is a tough one to spell! .
I was frapping confused. But I kept my distance. I just did not know what to do with that. I turns out that once I decided I was attracted to her, I realized I was very attracted. Any way a long time ago.
Any thoughts about this one? Remember I am still trying to figure out why I am seemingly not capable of love. Given whats stated here, did I read this completely wrong?
attraction works on different levels
I just don't see why friends can't be intimate if they both want to
Ok so you are saying you are sad no one in your mind seems to be expressing interest in you but that of these people anyway, you are not interested in any of them anyway?
shall we get jeff to help us out?
[video=youtube;y8AWFf7EAc4]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8AWFf7EAc4[/video]
I agree- and sometimes that's when the best relationships form.
But I don't believe that all men are attracted to their female friends- as I mentioned before, this suggests that men would never befriend unattractive girls...going on the assumption that attraction is purely physical.
I think attraction can be many things...but I don't think all male/female friendships are based on sexual attraction. I actually think that devalues a lot of great male/female friendships, and also make men seem like they're only interested in women on one level.
Perhaps I'm completely misreading the thread- but I don't think it's black or white. Sure men might befriend a girl to sleep with them, but I don't think it's always the case.
This put me in a kumbaya mood. Still listening to it, about to whip out a lighter and wave it in the air lol.
What defines leading someone on? Or being a flirt? And do INFJs do that?
You know, being a lesbian I can't say that I agree with the whole, "men just wanna fuck" thing. I have a bunch of guy friends, more so than female friends, and I don't believe it's because they secretly want to fuck me. In fact I know that it's not. Most all of them I know would at the drop of a hat, if I asked them to, but there are those who see me in a completely platonic sister type way too.
Now being on the other side of that, wanting to fuck certain women, playing the game in order to get there and later being told by them, "I'm tired of everyone just wanting to fuck me and not be my friend!" Chicks gotta listen to themselves when they say shit like that. I don't want to be their friend for a reason, I think they're shitty people. I'll fuck em, sure! But friendship makes me cringe, because they make me cringe. I don't believe that men and women can't be friends. I believe it's harder -MAYBE impossible- for men and women to be friends when they're sexually attracted to each other. I think it's easy as fuck when their both not, and those are pretty great friendships.
In what sense are INFJs attracted to the underdog ? To help them or what?
I agree! But at the same time, being nice to someone, or being their friend- isn't leading them on! I think they're completely different! But it is unfortunate that sometimes being nice/a friend is mistaken for something more.
It ends with the woman saying, "I only think of you as a friend" and the guy leaves. Then the guy meeting the next girl and starting the monologue all over again.
In an ideal world the person would feel flattered that someone has expressed interest, but let the person down gently without crushing them and they would continue as friends
But in a world where many people make such a big deal out of everything and create so much pressure and where gossip and drama are prized more than harmony and compassion people are less likely to be philosophical or magnanimous