"emotional intelligence" is kind of just like a shorthand way of describing the ability to understand that other people have independent emotional responses, right? no big deal.
The deal-breaker
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Anyone who makes things hard for me.
I also really don't like ugly people, fat is fine, I just hate ugly.
I also really don't like ugly people, fat is fine, I just hate ugly.
I passionately hate short-sightedness. As am economist it drives me even more crazy than the average person because every day I'm analyzing theories about how our economy runs and I have to always keep in mind how a decision affects both the now and the future, no matter how distant. Not to mention I'm very much a long-range planner. So when people think only about how decisions they make will affect them right now it's very much a turn-off for me.
Someone who doesn't know how to handle issues; who ducks out when things aren't going perfectly or not willing to work through anything. When things get hard or tough, they ditch. Someone, who doesn't want to put any time or effort into anything, just expect to have things exactly as they want, without any compromise or sacrifice. Someone who wants things to be fun and easy all the time. Someone who doesn't get that a relationship is a team effort, not a hostile takeover.
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I can deal with a lot of crap in a relationship, but what I am thankful for pushing 40 for is that my life experience has allowed me to narrow this list down to two simple things.
1) I will never be a door mat. If I am treated as such, kiss my ass on the way out the door.
2) Religion. The differences in beliefs can drastically fuck up a relationship. I do not believe in god, I am a not-so-devout Buddhist. Ironically, my husband is struggling with his beliefs. He is a Christian, yet as an INTJ, he also can't deny the irrationality of it. This, more than money, has been the thing we fuss about the most.
My relationships in the past were with a variety of people with different beliefs. Christians unfortunately did not see eye to eye with me and were the most judgmental of my own beliefs (or lack thereof). I am sorry to any Christians I will undoubtedly offend with that, but I am speaking of the Christians I dated in the past. I was happiest with either another "casual buddhist" or an atheist.
I am raising my children with the freedom to choose for themselves what their religious beliefs will be and will support them in their decision.
1) I will never be a door mat. If I am treated as such, kiss my ass on the way out the door.
2) Religion. The differences in beliefs can drastically fuck up a relationship. I do not believe in god, I am a not-so-devout Buddhist. Ironically, my husband is struggling with his beliefs. He is a Christian, yet as an INTJ, he also can't deny the irrationality of it. This, more than money, has been the thing we fuss about the most.
My relationships in the past were with a variety of people with different beliefs. Christians unfortunately did not see eye to eye with me and were the most judgmental of my own beliefs (or lack thereof). I am sorry to any Christians I will undoubtedly offend with that, but I am speaking of the Christians I dated in the past. I was happiest with either another "casual buddhist" or an atheist.
I am raising my children with the freedom to choose for themselves what their religious beliefs will be and will support them in their decision.
I guess a deal breaker for me is that sort of intuitive uh-oh that happens inevitably in every relationship. You know, that little sign that becomes a big sign that becomes a big giant truck over your pinky toe. That being said, I feel I need to get past that or else...forever single?
people who will not take no are definitely not worth the trouble.
the simple things are every bit as good as the finer things, i think.
[MENTION=1814]invisible[/MENTION] uh-oh, I guess we can never be then because I have childish handwriting, ha! It's not bubble writing with hearts for dots or anything, but it's been described as "crazy white guy" handwriting (whatever that means) or simply illegible and "messy". I have preferred typing since I was 11.
Another deal breaker, in addition to lack of curiosity, is dislike of animals. Yes, those strange people exist. I don't mean animal abuser sickos (it goes without saying that they get the no of course). I mean the type of person who gets unduly skeeved out by a few cat hairs and cannot appreciate a drooly dog cuddle. There's no future with them, none.
Another deal breaker, in addition to lack of curiosity, is dislike of animals. Yes, those strange people exist. I don't mean animal abuser sickos (it goes without saying that they get the no of course). I mean the type of person who gets unduly skeeved out by a few cat hairs and cannot appreciate a drooly dog cuddle. There's no future with them, none.
yeah sorry but you are officially demoted from potential match status. i really thought we had something, but i truly require a calligraphic handwriting style. sorry!! we can still be friends.
animals are cool.
Cruel to animals/humans/life
Dishonest/untrustworthy
Lack of aspiration/goals
Smelly like after-asparagus pee
Ownership of a real penis (attached or otherwise
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There are other things but that's what came to mind.
Dishonest/untrustworthy
Lack of aspiration/goals
Smelly like after-asparagus pee
Ownership of a real penis (attached or otherwise
)There are other things but that's what came to mind.
Say it isn't so!