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  1. Siamese cat

    Siamese cat Madame Cat strikes again

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    What were the deal-breaker situations and qualities in person, when it comes to your romantic relationships? What are those things that you just can't compromise about.

    If you want to expand a bit you could also tell about the deal-breaker in other relationships that you've had, friendships and work related one.
     
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  2. The Jester

    This is all hypothetical:

    - I couldn't be with a dumb person.
    - Someone who's overweight. I'm very skinny myself, and no, I don't mean 'overweight-I-have-flesh-on-my-bones'.
    - A basic form of being friendly and polite.
     
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    #1 Taking my freedom...
    That's it if you let me be free I will be who you fell in love with. If you clog me up I am who I have become....
     
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    Could you expand a bit about this one, I don't really understand? Does that mean that you couldn't be with someone who is not polite?
     
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    Do not be an asshole

    that goes for all types of relationships
     
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    What would you consider as clogging?

    Great answer, I agree.
     
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    Yes.

    Just don't yell at me when you're asking me to do something.
    And if you want me to do something, ask me, don't command me.
    That's basically it.
     
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    I really don't like being with someone who is over-controlling of me. If I feel like someone is looking over my shoulder and attempting to micro-manage my life, it won't end well.

    Along the same lines, someone who is constantly stressed and negative wouldn't last long with me, I wouldn't think I would get with someone like that in the first place.
     
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    Clogging to me would be not letting me go out and expel my negative energy. I get backed up and that makes me cranky and unruly. I am one of those that needs to do something to recharge myself. Being alone at times is all that will work. Most women I have dated do not understand that. They think that it has something to do with them. It does not. Even when I am not dating I need free time alone. It's just who I am. And the older I get the worse it is...
     
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  11. The Jester

    Also, honesty.
    Ohh, and no manipulation pls thx LOL ;D
     
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    You must practice good hygiene.
    You should be capable of holding a conversation, let alone an intelligent one.
    Must have some sort of life plan. Just going with it? I'm sorry, no.
    I appreciate a nice vocabulary.
    Has to be capable of providing his own transportation.
    Cannot be controlling, must be willing to give me my space.
     
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    Crap, if I am the same way then that means I am going to be a completely isolated hermit at 35! lol
     
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    Being selfish in the bedroom and elsewhere.
     
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    Don't forget good health insurance! :D
     
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    I was also like this, but when I was around 30, I started becoming more and more E again. I'm still very I, but I just want to inform that it doesn't always have to be a one-way trip to I-land.
     
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    I think I can provide my own health insurance (;
    but if we're getting married; yeah he better have nice health insurance.
     
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    And that is ok! Trust me on that unless you find exactly what your looking for you will never be satisfied. Don't get me wrong I have friends. The ones I can relate too are few and far between. I am in a great relationship now. I just don't like to talk about it. And even though it's great I still need my me time. It's why I will be going out disc golfing here shortly. I need some me time..
     
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    Actually, I wasn't hardly as introverted in Des Moines when I have a good number of intelligent people to talk to. When I worked at a fast food shop I showed many characteristics of ENTP (around people that I knew) and I drove a lot of people nuts, lol.


    I don't know a whole lot of intelligent people here (IRL) that can hold a good conversation so I think that is partly to blame for my extreme introversion.
     
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    I had so many deal-breakers.

    -kids (unless he was widowed...say no to baby mama drama)
    -divorced
    -racist
    -homophobic
    -socially conservative, in a political sense
    -anti-marriage
    -insisting on smoking around me or in the house
    -disrespectful of my spirituality
    -bossy
    -constant negativity
    -pill popper
    -uses any illegal substances (might, might give mj a pass--i have before)
    -non-monogamous
    -i'm sure there's more
    -oh, generally not thinking i'm wonderful (all the time)

    i pretty much lucked out.
     
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