No. Spanking doesn’t get the desired results and it’s demeaning. Once. It didn’t change my behavior but it pissed me off so badly that I actually plotted revenge.
Numerous studies have found increased risk of impaired child development from the use of corporal punishment. Corporal punishment by parents has been linked to increased aggression, mental health problems, impaired cognitive development, and drug and alcohol abuse
These days, if you say that you were spanked as a child, society will tell you that you were abused and hence you are anxious/depressed/bipolar etc. But what about all the anxious/depressed/bipolar adults that were NOT spanked as kids?
AmenGrowing up in daycares I saw a lot of spanking and outright abuse. You could put it on a calendar, if a kid got spanked they'd act out more volitally within weeks.
It doesn't solve their issue of being unable to channel anger, it just makes them fearful of expressing anything and so they internalize more.
I was never hit and I threw plenty of tantrums. I was largely punished by taking freedoms and privileges away.
There are effective alternatives. Hitting is lazy.
I'm not for permissive behavior or for giving up control on them
Ever seen "Dr" Phil? I personally cannot stand that show or his ideas very much.. He's harsh and rude imo... but he did say one smart thing once as I was forced to watch an episode for 20 mins at someone elses house.. He said.. "Know your kids currency"..I'm prone to think parents who spank or intimidate their children try to exert too much control on kids decisions. I don't think the motivations for doing so are any worth the means, especially when I consider those kids will grow and be thrown to control their own lives by their own will.
I'm not for permissive behavior or for giving up control on them, but more for stimulating mental processes that makes the kid aim for what I consider a more favorable decision. It changes the focus on controlling actions towards controlling thought patterns, which I want to be healthier and long-term useful.
I've barely read some mentions of Dr Phil online and I've never seen it on local TV here, so I don't know well his show.Ever seen "Dr" Phil? I personally cannot stand that show or his ideas very much.. He's harsh and rude imo... but he did say one smart thing once as I was forced to watch an episode for 20 mins at someone elses house.. He said.. "Know your kids currency"..
It's so true too.. If your 3 year old loves his star wars lego storm troopers and tie fighter more than air, 9 times out of 10 if he is doing something he ought not to.. and you tell him ok, I told you no, so, if you keep doing x then the trooper is mine for 5 mins.. and BE CONSISTENT!! You can bet they will stop. No anger needed on the parents part. In fact it's sorta funny to watch.. I think that is sort of the thought you are expressing, yes?
AbsolutelyI've barely read some mentions of Dr Phil online and I've never seen it on local TV here, so I don't know well his show.
But yes, that's a way of gradually leading the kid to figure out he can choose for himself changing into what you want them to do (and further on time, to figure why it was a better decision).
O.OThere is no child that I would spank however I can think of several adults whom I would gladly put over my knee.