I think, to start, both sexes as people should share qualities. These aren't talking points, but more what I think we should all work hard at as individuals.
Integrity(say what you mean, mean what you say)
Almost redundant, honesty, loyalty, respect, honor.
There are probably some I have left out, and some that overlap, but suffice it to say, if you want to be a real woman, or man, you need to be a real person for starters.
I'm not clear on if the answer to this question is how do I change myself so I am a real man or women. Because I think somethings are the way you are born and just how masculine you are physically is limited to the way you are born. How masculine you are mentally is maybe something you have learned to be.
With that said, I think there are some qualities that are driven by hormones and there are just some things about being a guy you can't fake. It might look interesting from the outside, and evolution being what it is, we are born chemically driven and there are times I wake up and feel the adrenaline run through me in a rage. I could put a helmet on and play until I'm almost dead. I don't know if my wife ever wakes up feeling that way.
So is a real man a product of how hard certain hormones run through him?
How maternal a women ever feels?
Obviously, I haven't made conclusions.
But I think there are other components.
I think men and women should do things because it's what we have come to expect from each other. I open every door because its polite, because I'm chivalrous, because I'm a guy and that's what I do.
I think women should be classy. I think they are grace. I think they are compassion and etiquette.
Maybe because they can be opposite to the brute force guys can be. Maybe because that's what we have come to expect from them. Maybe because they are our mothers.
Not that guys shouldn't have those qualities, too. I like to think I have class, not sure about grace, but compassion, and etiquette. But maybe women are this by nature where guys have to learn it. I was born with respect. Maybe that made class and etiquette easy to learn.
After reading what I wrote, I don't think I've delineated it well, or maybe answered your question. It's clear in my mind, I just have to work harder at expressing it. But maybe you get my idea. But I would say be who you are, do it well, and do it with respect and I bet you're as true a women or man as anyone can be.