So, here’s my opinion. I think she values you as a person, but thought through why you weren’t right for her romantically. I’m not judging her for her decision, but she does seem to feel that all the positives in your relationship doesn’t make up for the romance/having the feels. Being different people, what you value and would like to receive in return - steadiness, reliability, fun, isn’t entirely align with what she values and would like from you.
I think the older your grow, the more you realize everything that no one person can give you everything and you have to work on fulfilling your own needs. She’s not there yet and seems a little immature, especially with the grasping onto the next guy, who is definitely not going to work out. To give her credit, she does seem to value you, or feel guilty about the break-up, to want to give you a lot for your birthday and attention after the break-up. You probably don’t want to be in the position of receiving this, so I think cutting off contact with her is good for you. It’s going to be hard for the two of you because you’re attached to each other, but it’s really not good for you to hang around waiting for her to get a clue.
I think the older your grow, the more you realize everything that no one person can give you everything and you have to work on fulfilling your own needs. She’s not there yet and seems a little immature, especially with the grasping onto the next guy, who is definitely not going to work out. To give her credit, she does seem to value you, or feel guilty about the break-up, to want to give you a lot for your birthday and attention after the break-up. You probably don’t want to be in the position of receiving this, so I think cutting off contact with her is good for you. It’s going to be hard for the two of you because you’re attached to each other, but it’s really not good for you to hang around waiting for her to get a clue.
