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[INFJ] INFJ’s are cheaters?

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    Try to wrap your head around this one...

    If I'm in a relationship with a woman and I do something sexual with a man, I don't feel it as cheating. But I'd never do anything sexual with another woman, no matter how much I want to, because it feels like cheating.

    I know it's cheating in the sense that our society sees it, but it doesn't feel like cheating to me personally when I do something with another man.

    And yes, I have done things with men whilst in a relationship with a woman.
     
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    I’m an INFJ, and I publicly humiliated and outed a forum member on here for cheating on another fellow member, though my jab at her was quite subtle and was meant to be an insinuation rather than be fully blatantly obvious. But then maybe it wasn’t so subtle because she caught on and yeah, it wasn’t good. But idgaf. She was pretty toxic to begin with anyways. *shrugs*

    Cheating and personality types have no correlation whatsoever. Being an INFJ myself, I find cheating disgusting and abhorrent, and will never do it. However, not all INFJs are the same. Just like for any type. It’s a general human issue.
     
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    Couldn't have said it better myself, but as I age I definitely find myself becoming more forgiving.
     
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    That's ironic, because forgiveness is a virtue cheaters often latch onto.
     
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    Pin "Magnificent Bastard" / Ren's Counterpart

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    If I get cheated on I'll be banging all of the escorts.
     
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    Ren Pin's android / Baroque Spinoza / ≅ INFP

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    Lmao.

    You do talk a lot about banging escorts these days, Pinny. Just noticing a trend.
     
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    Ren Pin's android / Baroque Spinoza / ≅ INFP

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    My position on this is: remove the cheater entirely from your life, no conditions, unilateral decision.

    But maybe forgiveness is still possible especially if it allows the one cheated to move on. It doesn't have to be forgiveness in the sense of "I forgive you, you're still a great person!" but more something like "humanity is fallible" or whatever.

    I think letting a cheater back into one's life is always a mistake, though.
     
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    I agree empirically, lol.
     
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    lol. And I agree with myself too—empirically!
     
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    If the woman I love did something sexual with another woman, I would be fine with it. But if she did anything sexual with another man or if she'd fallen in love with another woman or man, It'd break my heart.

    I don't know why I feel like that; I know it goes against the views of most people. That's how I feel.

    A man I loved left me for another woman and we're still mates. But if he'd left me for another man, it'd kill me and I'd doorslam him.
     
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    I'm turning into a monster day-by-day.
     
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    Having been cheated on before I wouldn't cheat at all, it's not in me. I wouldn't cheat on my husband, I'd just end the relationship, as me cheating just means I no longer love my husband.

    The only cheating I do is perving on hot Korean actors :D even if they're practically plastic surgeoned on :|
     
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    Apologies for the late reply as I've been busy lately! Yes, using these words allows one to be more concise in expressing love rather than just saying you feel some type of way or the elaborate wordy ramblings that typically come from me. :laughing:
     
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    Cheating has nothing to do with the personality type, it's the person who cheats and not their type. I've been cheated on before and it's the greatest betrayal someone could ever do for someone who they should love and care about. Currently single, but I wouldn't ever cheat on the person I will love (in the future, whoever he will be), because it's very disrespectful, hurtful and painful thing to do for the person who the one loves the most.
     
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    Oops, I totally forgot about making note of your strong marriage; damn this ADHD! You seem to be wise and a good person from my first impressions (I've already learned something from you), so I hope that I get to be as wise as you as I age. I am evermore engaged in a quest of learning and experiencing the joys and setbacks of life. Also, I hope that I end up in an everlasting and happy (I hope) marriage such as yours. I forget how many years exactly, but my parents are nearing 40 years in marriage together. One interesting fact about my parents' marriage is that they both exchanged vows on a date that would later become associated with grief and sadness all over the world, September 11th. How unfortunate, eh?
     
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    Oh the rage I have felt when imagining my significant other happy with another man rather than happy with me. I'm 99% of the time an outwardly calm & collected person (exception being that I do experience debilitating social anxiety, but it's not visibly apparent), but it these sort of emotions that just make me sock a pillow repeatedly while sobbing in tears. Not the most joyful moments of my life, that's for sure.
     
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    I find cheating is a betrayal of our own values, if we think that we have values!
    Depends also on the depth of the relationship. Women tend to be more forgiving if they discover that it was just a fuck, men tend to do the opposite.
    I had very bad experiences that i wish no-one would have.
    To fuck someone else and turn back home afterwards saying hey sweetie how was your day? i missed you, its not my cup of tea.
    Finding out that the hause you built for years has a time bomb on the fundaments its not very funny
     
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    I wonder why it's called cheating.

    Maybe women try to manipulative men to do things by withholding sex, but the guy just has sex with someone else, rendering the manipulation impotent. "Hey! That's cheating!!" ?
     
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    Sounds like what an ENTP would say

    Also, I find that INFJs are least likely to cheat but more likely to leave a bad relationship

    I find that mistyped INFJs are actually INFPs who cheat a lot since they're swayed easily by emotions
     
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    Nah, the ENTP would be smart enough not to get married in the first place.

    I think the best personalities for relationships are ENTJ, INTJ, ESTJ, and ISTJ. Very stable people, haha.
     
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