That's not my style. I put her on time out. It makes her nuts. I think she wants the satisfaction of a fight so she can turn people into villains for 'being mean to her'.
I just had my INTJ who is married to an ENFP explain to me that when they do this you have to explain to them that they hurt you, not that they were 'wrong'. I have to admit that this was pretty much the way things went. She fought back when I told her I didn't like what she was doing until I explained that it hurt my feelings, and then I got cuddled. It seems like patronizing them, but maybe it's as simple as speaking their language.
I'm still undecided about whether or not it is worth pursuing this, and really would prefer a good old INFJ who understands me.