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    Milktoast Bandit That is all

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    Maybe this is more like infp + infp...
     
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    Pin "Magnificent Bastard" / Ren's Counterpart

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    For those of us who fancy ince... Yeah, a satisfying pair!
     
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    Happy Phantom

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    On second thought, no I do not believe I could date a male INFJ. lol
     
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    Ren Pin's android and co-founder of Stoic Café

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    I can definitely recognize aspects (both good and bad) of my last relationship in your words. She was INFJ.

    I've only ever met one certified female INTP and she wasn't single. I'm still waiting for that hopeful day.
     
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    Oh man, my first relationship was an INTP, and it was awesome. Relationship ended due to different paths and personal demons that my ex had to deal with. He is a wonderful person nonetheless and I hope he is doing well.

    My second one (my ex-fiancé) was an ESFP and boy, I dodged a missile on that one.

    I still yet have to meet an INFJ though. Maybe one day!
     
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    Hahaha yes! 10x this!
     
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    Yes! A very good match. I can’t think of any other type I could tolerate. I briefly dated an ENFP who irritated the life out of me. INTP and INFJ can work very well as long as they can communicate.
     
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    Agreed!
     
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    They can be asses, especially when younger so the INFJ can’t be too sensitive. They usually have a great sense of humor and if the INFJ is a jokester even better! We can be lazy together and give zero fucks. They’re laid back which is great. So much to be learned from each other and lots and lots of fun!
     
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    Yes exactly! . My ex had an AMAZING sense of humor. He always made me laugh.

    I always find a guy with a great sense of humor so appealing. :smilehearts:
     
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    I'm an INFJ woman in a relationship with an INFJ man... At least, that's what he says, but he's so friendly and socially outgoing at times that I'm not entirely sure. He says the same about me, as well. So, we're going to take the test over again when were together. Lol. Other than my boyfriend I have two male friends that are INFJ and they are married to/the surrogate second husband to my ISTJ best friend.
    So, when we all get together and drink, it's pretty funny and also very chill.
    My circle of friends all love and ship me and Jon together and honestly, he's the best relationship I've ever been in. He's 10 years younger than me, but he had a rough life where he always had to be the grown up and take care of his disabled mother, so he matured faster. I had an enabling mother that sort of stunted my maturity a bit until I had my own child... So he and I are right about the same place.
    I like taking care of him, which I call being domestic. I love cooking for him and he LOVES the way I cook. I wash his clothes, but he cleans my bathroom and kitchen. We share in the duties of tending to my 7 year old daughter. She's on the high functioning end of the autism spectrum and can be difficult, so when I find myself on the verge of collapse with her, he picks up where I can't and he handles it. We work as a team in everything. Even sexually. We can be serious together and we laugh together. We are open and honest about everything and we talk through everything.
    I trust him completely. I have from the day I met him. He effortlessly walked through every defensive wall I had up. We fell in love with each other fast. We are just in awe of each other sometimes, that there is someone else who just gets us.
    I just feel really ready to be in this relationship and I'm pretty certain that if this doesn't work out that I'm done with relationships. I was done with them for the past few years, but he came out of nowhere and somehow changed that.
    I agree that if two INFJ's are in the same place developmentally, it can be bliss. Because I have a female friend that is INFJ and she and I have just wordlessly drifted apart because we are absolutely at different levels of growth. I recognize it. I'm not mad about it. It is what it is. Some INFJ pairings are like a beautiful symphony and some are like feedback on a loudspeaker. Luckily, so far, me and my guy are the symphony.
     
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    The thing I worry about with INFJ/INFJ is a failure to grow beyond the dominant tendencies of the type because it would be so comfortable, and there would be no challenge to adjust.
    Introverts, and INFJs specifically, have some behavioral tendencies that do need to be challenged, especially when immature.

    INTP/INFJ is a good match. It's the Golden Pair.
    INTJ/INFJ is also a good match - they share Ni/Se, so they understand each other in that way, but are different enough that they force each other to grow.
     
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    I was actually laughing at this, 3:00am sitting at my pc alone in my room. If anyone's awake they must think "he's finally completely lost it". Haha.

    Does the old lady represent the passive-aggressiveness?
     
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    I'm beginning to realise how rare male INFJs are, although I'm cursed/blessed with being one myself haha.

    I'm 32 and have only ever met one in my life. It was recently at my brother's graduation party in our garden. It was a friend of his (10 years younger than me) and we ended up completely zoning out from everyone in the garden and talked for over 2 hours non-stop. Everyone kept looking at us wondering if we had met already haha. It was one of the most deepest most intimate and fulfilling conversations I have had in my life.

    Then he went home and we never spoke again.
     
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    I'm sorry to hear that Ninae.

    I remember when I was younger, I knew I was more emotional/sensitive than other boys. So I would act almost apathetic at times to balance this. There was a period of time in my life where I couldn't cry and I'm sure this had something to do with it.

    But as I grew older and became more comfortable with who I was and realised I wanted to live a more authentic life for myself, rather than for others, I embraced my emotional side and it's been beautifully painful.

    I've had my trust and heart broken but I always fear that if I put my walls up, it'll turn me into a emotionless robot of some sort. Yes I do retreat to recharge and so on, but I always get back into the world with love.
     
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    I would like to see a real life INFJ couple, though rare.

    I wonder if there was ever a famous or notable INFJ couple. Time to Google.
     
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