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How long should you wait before getting married?

I think you should look at what you anticipate marriage doing for you in the first place. What is it that you are waiting for? What do you think marriage is going to do? Is it some grand transformation? If you are both ready to decide to get married it should just be a celebration of what's already there, in which case the waiting time is of no real consequence. Yup, I think it's a confirmation, rather than a transformation.
 
Been thinking more about it, think I need to add this - I got married really young. I think that there is some growing up that is easier and more effective to be done by yourself first. If your looking to somebody else to ease the way, I think you will end up selling yourself short..a bit like learning to swim attached to someone else. And then you
 
BTW, living together first could actually INCREASE your chances of divorce. You'd think it would increase the chances of success, but apparently not. Maybe "the thrill is gone" or something like that. I think it depends on the level of commitment, though. If people are committed to each other, then the chances of staying together are only slightly worse than the married set.

Commitment's the key.

http://www.nytimes.com/1987/12/07/us/divorce-may-be-the-price-of-living-together-first.html

http://www.nydailynews.com/lifestyl...ignificantly_raise_likelihood_of_divorce.html

http://health.howstuffworks.com/relationships/advice/living-together-before-marriage.htm
 
If I decide to get married, I couldn't see it happening any time before my late twenties.
 
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If I were to believe in marriage [which I don't] I think the ideal wait period before a marriage should be twenty years, and for clarification's sake, I was not saying twenty should be the age individuals get married.
 
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Honestly I think people are way to quick to jump into marriage, I mean marriage is supposed to last the rest of your life I see no problem waiting a few years in the scheme of things. My parents have been married for 31 years and my grandparents for 60 years so I have no negative associations with marriage but I think jumping into it in less than a year seems absurd.
 
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