Doubting I'm a INFJ :(

Why be sad if you're not an INFJ? It's just a title. You're always going to be you regardless of what four letters say you are.

 

I like XNTPs. Good partners in crime.

 

They say your MBTI test never changes, but it does. I used to score high as an ENFP, even though I never felt recharged by people, just totally drained. The questions were skewed, "Can you speak easily to a group?" Yes, I can, I've had to do it enough for work. The question should have been, "Would you rather speak to a group, or go hide in a corner away from all the people." I would pick the second choice. I also got ISTP after studying the LSAT for hours and hours every day. Don't worry, I never ended up going to law school. I guess I'm saying that we all change, and that's ok. Plus, I think when we take the tests too much, as deep thinkers, we can skew the responses by reading the questions differently. What do you think?

 

I meant ENFJ. I screw the letters up in my brain all the time - lol.

 

I hope it will straighten out for you soon, but try and not let it mess with your mind too much. They're just letters.

 

You might be INFP.

But I think usually the very first testing is the most accurate, because there's no bias within you. My guess is that you are INFJ. The way you worry about things is more INFJ than INFP, and also the way you share it very openly (~ responsibly). There's something decisive about not hiding one's weaknesses. So some INFJs always seem weak (Woody Allen style), which becomes their strength. Typical INFPs are more aloof, they can't express their passions as openly as INFJs.

 

do you prefer to discuss ideas in a logical and impersonal manner? do you get irritated when people focus on (irrelevant) emotions rather than on your thoughts or ideas - like the "why be sad" comment above? if so you're probably an intp. we intp's get emotional too, but we strongly dislike it when people change their behavior towards us because of it. for example if i'm explaining something to someone and they call me "moody" and ignore whatever point i was making, that would offend me. if they try to hug me or try to get me to talk about why i'm feeling that way, it's even worse. on the flip side if someone offers me practical advice on how to improve whatever we're talking about, and does not shy away from criticizing me in relation to that, i will respect them and will listen to them. as long as the criticism is based in logic and not in emotion, im fine with it. if you can relate to any of that, you might be an intp.

 

Von Hase has some good posts analyzing how we all change within the MBTI spectrum. But I agree: They're just letters, and you are who you are, but you're always in flux.

*Shrug.* I always say enjoy who you are. So what if you discover you're a different type? Try it on for size. See how it feels. Does it feel "more" like you? Then keep it. If not, try on another cloak.

 

Allow me,I question you a few questions maybe this helps:

What is common characteristics between your personality and the personality intp?

Do you suspect in any other personality or never not?

If you suspect because the test only it does not mean anything forget about it better. But if for some other reason, what is it?

What is the opinion of your family How they is guessing your personality? (not you guess what they could say)

what's you guess your personality and you are a kid?

Waiting your answer...

 

If it helps, RL, I do get a slightly more "INFP" feeling from you more than INTP or even INFJ. Plus, you're fairly young - you're still growing in your MBTI type. And remember, there are many, many folks who have strong Ti functions and yet still remain essentially INFP or INFJ. You can develop separate processes and yet still be essentially one type or another.

It's just that some are *blatantly* their type.

I can spot some INTPs from a mile away on the board. It's obvious (both positive and negative traits). But you don't stand out like they do, as far as I can see. But that's my opinion.

 

The first test I took the test was well a long time ago. I was a few years older than you. I scored as an ENFJ. I was only an EFJ by a few points. Now I consistantly score as an INFJ, INFP, INFJ, INFP. I am a stronger I and a much stronger F. I think I was a P as a child, I know I was. My father was an Alcoholic and abusive. So in order to survive I had to develop the J. The longer he has been out of my life the less J I become. When I first took the test I did not know myself very well at all. I did not really know what my preferences were with the exception of the N. I was at the mercy of being an E though. My identity and self concept was completely dependent on others view of me and not my own self concept. I think this again was due to my relationship with my father. The extremes of this, I believe are people that have so much difficulty functioning in the word. An extreme I can't relate to other people at all. An extreme E can't be alone. An extreme P can not function in American society because they can not keep deadlines. I remember hearing that and it does make sense. The more you get to know yourself the clearer it will become for you.

 

I think it does also. There is nothing solid on which to base the belief that type is constant. It might be part of some aspects of the theory, but it is in no way proven. I think MBTI is a very fluid system, and people often struggle with those sorts of systems always trying to force them back into boxes with clear boundaries that never change.