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Which Personality Type is Your Love Match?

Ren said:
Sounds pretty perfect indeed :hearteyes:

When you say predictable, do you mean that you don't necessarily want your partner to surprise you very often?

As in, it's not something you particularly value. Or did you mean reliable?
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Yeah. Predictable, reliable, even transparent. A mixture of this. I don't like surprises, no.

Of course I always encourage growth in a partner, but I am not comfortable with someone too spontaneous or fickle.

Starting a new hobby or even changing career? Absolutely. Wanting to move to Madagascar or travel the world for a year, out of the blue? Not fine.

I could add a lot of other qualities, to be honest. Financial responsibility is also extremely important.
 
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For example, my stupid STP mom just decided to go to Ghana few months back. One of her impulsive and crazy decisions. She had some business idea.

She went alone, while she has 2 young girls at home. I don't remember ever being so angry.

Thankfully she was only robbed there and nothing more.
 
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philostam said:
For example, my stupid STP mom just decided to go to Ghana few months back. One of her impulsive and crazy decisions. She had some business idea.

She went alone, while she has 2 young girls at home. I don't remember ever being so angry.

Thankfully she was only robbed there and nothing more.
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Lmao

Also sad.
 
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Deleted member 16771 said:
He sounds like a useful little catalyst :neutral: (joking)

So what's he up to these days? Do you ever hear from him?
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Are you really joking though? Personally I don't think anyone should have to stay in a relationship where their needs are not met. But I can already see that I'm being painted as a bad person here for not martyring myself for the relationship.

I still stand by saying it's a challenging combo but if those involved are able to overcome their own challenges, very rewarding But in my experience, it's not easy going. But it seems to work for other INFPs here.
 
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acd said:
Are you really joking though? Personally I don't think anyone should have to stay in a relationship where their needs are not met. But I can already see that I'm being painted as a bad person here for not martyring myself for the relationship.

I still stand by saying it's a challenging combo but well worth it if those involved are able to overcome their own challenges. But in my experience, it's not easy going. But it seems to work for other INFPs here.
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No acd, that's not what I mean. Of course I don't think you're a bad person.

Forgive me, that's my own cynicism spilling out and tainting shit. Sorry if I offended you.

I agree with everything you said.
 
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philostam said:
Starting a new hobby or even changing career? Absolutely. Wanting to move to Madagascar or travel the world for a year, out of the blue? Not fine.
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Yeah, I wouldn’t like that either. I mean, my partner would be free to make bold suggestions as long as I have a right of veto :grinning:

Come to think of it, I think in general I prefer to be with someone who is slightly less assertive (and more agreeable) than me.

My truly stable relationships have been like that.
 
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philostam said:
My perfect match is someone who is:

- emotionally stable and wise
- relaxed and with a positive/optimistic attitude
- interested in ideas, but not to the extreme (mustn't be too eccentric)
- caring but not too social (must prefer small group interactions)
- loyal and predictable
- doesn't party, smoke or, god forbid, does drugs
- has a sense of humor and laughs a lot (the latter is a bit more optional)

To be honest I already have that. :hearteyes:
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Anyway, here we are, around two years back. One of the only "selfies" we have.

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philostam said:
I actually said it a few times. I am from Ljubljana, Slovenia.

She is originally from Bulgaria, but her parents moved all around Europe.

What was your guess? :grinning:
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Aww! I actually thought you were both South Slavic, but my guess for you was Romania or Slovakia (I used to have a Romanian student who looked like you a fair bit). I wasn't sure on your SO.
 
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Deleted member 16771 said:
Aww! I actually thought you were both South Slavic, but my guess for you was Romania or Slovakia (I used to have a Romanian student who looked like you a fair bit). I wasn't sure on your SO.
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Well actually, I am 3/4 Slovenian and 1/4 Croatian. My paternal grandad is Croatian. My paternal grandmother is Slovenian, but has some Austrian roots.

Now my step dad is from Slovakia. So there is a whole mix of Slavic languages in my family.
 
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philostam said:
Well actually, I am 3/4 Slovenian and 1/4 Croatian. My paternal grandad is Croatian. My paternal grandmother is Slovenian, but has some Austrian roots.

Now my step dad is from Slovakia. So there is a whole mix of Slavic languages in my family.
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I can see the Croat for sure. I'm not too familiar with Slovenian people, though.

But of course, I'm speaking from no real expertise whatsoever.
 
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I can see the Croat for sure. I'm not too familiar with Slovenian people, though.

But of course, I'm speaking from no real expertise whatsoever.
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Yeah, we are kinda vague. No real history or noticeable traits. I would say we are not a proud nation at all. This is also reflected in school curriculum. We study Slovenian literature/history way less than European. Like ratio 90-10.

Bulgaria is totally different. Very proud and patriotic people. The same goes for Serbia and Croatia, to be honest. Not to even mention Greece, Turkey etc.
 
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absolutely not.

Your Match is an INTJ
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