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    Yeah I would back off for sure. I think you're doing the right thing by showing initiative, but she doesn't seem to be as interested as you are, so I'd leave her be for now. The only reasons I can think of why she might be flaky are:

    1) She's super shy
    2) She has a hectic life and things keep getting in the way
    3) She's not that interested

    I'd be friendly as always, but maybe start looking elsewhere for a date.
     
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    I remember the last person I was infatuated with, I think I conducted myself well largely by focusing on my work and by being as honest as I sincerely could have.

    She was vulnerable with me but she fell apart so easily.
     
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    Yeah I totally agree, I've found out that for whatever reason people seem to want you more if you're out there having a life, and maybe even dating other people. I guess you look more appealing when your life doesn't revolve around chasing that one person ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
     
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    But seriously, I don't mean to sound like an asshole but most women are pretty overrated even the hot ones. You're better off being straightforward and honest with women and telling them that your goal is marriage and a family.

    If she's not operating at that level, she's wasting your time and basically sees you as a sex-object, a source of attention, or free food. If she doesn't take you seriously, brush her off without feeling too bad.

    Hook-ups are for losers. If your goal is just sex you're better off just visiting prostitutes. You're not paying prostitutes for sex. You're paying them to leave, ergo not waste your time because you have a purpose to fulfill.
     
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    Yes, must be one of the 3 mentioned reasons. Thanks for you input. Guess I have just to move on.
     
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    No my goal is not sex. I love being straightforward, but if I can't manage it to even get her on a date, well....what for ? The office is just not the right place for this kind of straightforwardnesss.
    Thanks for your feedback.
     
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    Fair enough, I think you're better off just not dating a co-worker.
     
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    You're probably better off not dating a coworker. I've started dating one and if we breakup I'll be looking for a new job.
     
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