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    Hey there. First post of a confused INFP.

    I’m interested in a INFJ coworker. I know her since 8 month. To keep it short: We had lunch break together - then I invited her to hang out after work and been rejected, so I backed off.

    Few weeks later she initiated to hang out together, which failed due to the sudden Covid-19 lockdown.

    After the situation improved here, I tried to initiate to hang out and got rejected again. :disappointed: I backed off again, but we still kept friendly contact. Few weeks later, she finally agreed to go swimming together. But she canceled a few hours before, because she was feeling unwell. (Sounds true, met her at work same day)

    The following day my vacation began. I texted her and asked her to let me know when she wanted to hang out, but got no reply at all since then. I don’t want to be too clingy, but I don’t want to give up too fast either. Since I am still on vacation, I want to use the time to rethink the situation.

    So I appreciate your (INFJ) feedback – should I back off or try to initiate contact again ?
     
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    Try again, she's just a flake.

    Set a limit for how much more flaking you will tolerate, and when that limit is reached, call her out on it in no uncertain terms.
     
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    I usually set myself on fire when I want the attention of a romantic prospect... It's worth a shot.
     
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    Milktoast Bandit Dominate with compassion...

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    This makes sense too.
     
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    #FlakeLivesMatter!
     
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    Milktoast Bandit Dominate with compassion...

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    #cornflakesmatter
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    If you got no reply after asking when she wanted to hang out I think you have your answer. You will find someone as eager to spend time with you as you are with them soon. That's the person to look out for.
     
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    Yep.

    In addition my attitude is kind of like, if it's meant to be, it will be so much that way that it's almost impossible not to happen. Starting a relationship shouldn't feel like you're getting resistance. It should happen so smoothly you almost don't know how it happened, it just falls into place... And that's because you both reciprocated feelings and therefore nobody was left hanging.
     
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    God damn, dating women sounds like such a pain in the ass.

    Shit!
     
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    Lucky you're gay right?
     
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    Because then I wouldn't mind a pain in the ass?
     
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    what she said. . she's not into you. sorry
     
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    How much do you like her?
     
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    Are you sure she's an INFJ? and not a flaky INFP that is just off a function? No offense to you as one, I literally know two flaky INFP's that do that shit...Usually an INFJ would feel like an asshole if someone actually wants to hang with them, because that's rare people want to. The two I know are all about them, they text to make contact, then when you reach out they blow people off, literally don't even answer back. Which, they obviously saw it an just ignored it.
     
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    Hold on I'll just use my absolute zero knowledge of this woman to reconsider.

    *concentrates*

    Hm. Turns out that she's an ESFP.

    Just being silly.
     
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    I should've just asked if she was ANY one woth introverted feeling, that's an introverted feeling move lol. I'd feel like an ass doing that to someone, I mean she could at least just say whether it's a go or a no. Not jackass someone around like so lol
     
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    Your ex was a jackass INFP, I get it, lol.

    Fi is the devil, yuck yuck, &c.
     
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    Do you take into account zodiac signs in addition to someones mbti? I'm forever on a constant correlation theory in my mind with that lol
     
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