To Hold or not to Hold.

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When you're in a relationship and walking next to each other somewhere public. Do you hold hands, or not hold hands? Give reasons for your answer. ^^

Why do some people hold hands, and some people don't?
 
I don't know holding hands for very long can be uncomfortable. It can be very pleasant for short periods. I noticed that couples here don't often hold hands in public. In fact, there is often quite some distance between them.
 
Just like opening the door, I always do. I like having my significant other close to me and I like when she holds onto me or puts her hand in my back pockets. It's just a good feeling of having them close to you and touching them in public.
 
Someone better be dead if you want to give me public displays of affection and/or expect them in return. Uh, yea..serious on that one. I am very private and don't really care for PDA at all. I will/have allowed such behavior when it was important to someone I cared about but did not initiate the action. If I am wanting/needing some type of physical affection from someone, something is wrong or I am delusional.


If I am wanting/needing some type of physical affection from someone, something is wrong or I am delusional. Edit: In public that is.
 
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If I'm with a close girlfriend, she'll usually lock arms with me as we are walking, because it creates an atmosphere of closeness.

With a boyfriend, we'll usually hold hands in the beginning, but as we grow closer, we change to locking pinkies because of a semi-conscious increase in security.
 
NDN NT said:
I am very private and don't really care for PDA at all. I will/have allowed such behavior when it was important to someone I cared about but did not initiate the action.
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I can relate... I find it awkward. Whenever I see such things in public I feel like barfing, lol. I wouldn't mind a hug in public, but I would rather these "mushy" things happen behind closed doors. I don't want to be the person that makes everyone feel like saying "get a room" lol.
 
I always hold hands, because I enjoy it... and if people dont like it, I glare at them until they look away.
 
Billy said:
I always hold hands, because I enjoy it... and if people dont like it, I glare at them until they look away.
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Yea, yea. Are you sure it isn't because you want to ensure your date doesn't run away? ;)
Edit: Or maybe you just like glaring [MENTION=1451]Billy[/MENTION]
 
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I'm shy about PDA, but one of my love languages is touch...so I don't mind holding hands or brief touches (as long as the timing is right). Now, the whole suck-face thing? No. No, no, no. Never in public.
 
Billy said:
I am pretty confrontational at times... I cant help it :(
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Should we call this one Understatement of the week? or Year? But that is the most adorable thing about you [MENTION=1451]Billy[/MENTION] Your lack of "BS"ery is so refreshing. Besides, I truly doubt you even try to "help it" ;)
 
When I'm with someone I'm close to, all strangers melt away. It's like they don't exist, cuz I don't care about them. It is like me and special person are in a bubble of our own and everyone else are just holograms.
 
NDN NT said:
Should we call this one Understatement of the week? or Year? But that is the most adorable thing about you @Billy Your lack of "BS"ery is so refreshing. Besides, I truly doubt you even try to "help it" ;)
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Its not refreshing to everyone! lol. Most people choose to live in a delusion, I am no exception.
 
Billy said:
Its not refreshing to everyone! lol. Most people choose to live in a delusion, I am no exception.
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Then perhaps we share the same delusional state! Except that whole public hand holding preference. Eww
 
NDN NT said:
Then perhaps we share the same delusional state! Except that whole public hand holding preference. Eww
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tsssssk c'mon... the feeling of his and her sweaty palms congealing into gooey affectionate public display-y-ness is awesome.
 
Billy said:
tsssssk c'mon... the feeling of his and her sweaty palms congealing into gooey affectionate public display-y-ness is awesome.
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crap, can't rep you on this *shudders* EWWWWWWW Sonya no like PDA!! I am just not certain that there is importance in "display-y-ness" and it would be against my grain. I can appreciate a spontaneous burst of affection in public but any kind of prolonged personal contact makes me skitterish--as is get away from me!
 
NDN NT said:
crap, can't rep you on this *shudders* EWWWWWWW Sonya no like PDA!! I am just not certain that there is importance in "display-y-ness" and it would be against my grain. I can appreciate a spontaneous burst of affection in public but any kind of prolonged personal contact makes me skitterish--as is get away from me!
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I like how uncomfortable it makes people :) I made out with a girl I was seeing one time (my tattoo artist) for a good half hour on a crowded street, like really passionately it was great, I was grabbing her boobs and she had her hand down my pants and everyone was stopping and pointing and laughing and stuff, it was embarrassing and usually I hate being on the spot, but it really turned me on having all those people watching. mmmhmmm (Oh Neen, where are you now... seriously, I need to colour in a portion of my tattoo...)
 
Billy said:
I like how uncomfortable it makes people :) I made out with a girl I was seeing one time (my tattoo artist) for a good half hour on a crowded street, like really passionately it was great, I was grabbing her boobs and she had her hand down my pants and everyone was stopping and pointing and laughing and stuff, it was embarrassing and usually I hate being on the spot, but it really turned me on having all those people watching. mmmhmmm (Oh Neen, where are you now... seriously, I need to colour in a portion of my tattoo...)
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LOL I think that is just your exhibisionist side there, you crazy sex fiend... ;)
 
Perhaps it's against the nature of my personality type, but I definitely do hold hands in public. My relationship with my SO is the only one in which I can deeply share myself, so expressing that is a great comfort and inspiration.

Don't get me wrong, before he came along I couldn't imagine engaging in all those cuddly couples' behaviors.
 
Too uncomfortable given sweaty palms and stride differences. I always find I have to take 1/2 steps to keep pace and then my arms are out of synch with my stride.
 
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