I know 3 ENFJs rather well. Live with 2. I love them like siblings, but they drive me bananas they are passionately angry, and argumentative, to the point of violence! I think it is the judging function that butts heads with mine, I end up having to relinquish much control to avoid conflict with them, which is really my own type getting in my way. Their E, of course drains & infuriates me, as I can't understand needing company, or an audience to do EVERY SIMPLE TASK!!! WTH!? You never wanna be alone with YOURSELF!?!? Plus... when other Feelers try to give me orders or advice it really rubs me the wrong way. I know exactly how selfish & irrational emotional involvement is. Moods, no objectivity... NO. Thinkers, make me listen to reason. They make logical arguments that I just can't deny the significance of. I just think ENFJs are ridiculous, & the feeling is mutual... it's a bad match... for me, personally. I need a lot of space from them.