What are your feelings on the five love languages? Do you think it’s a joke? Do you believe we have primary ways of expressing affection?
The five:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch
I personally like the description of the five love languages. I find myself being someone who primarily expresses through physical touch and I struggle with words of affirmation. The latter stems from the fact that I do not view myself as either ugly or handsome, I simply am. I don’t value my physical traits as highly as I do my mental traits. When I am dating, I sell my personality long before I sell my physical attributes which often results in confusion.
As multiple friends have pointed out and stated. I am the type of nerd guy who has no idea that he is attractive because he wasn’t the type of guy girls went after in high school. I never learned that I am a pretty handsome guy so that is something I am still trying to understand. I sell myself short constantly and so receiving compliments on my looks and giving compliments on physical appearances feels unnatural to me which causes me to blush in rather embarrassing manner. According to them, it is something that girls either find endearing about me or maddening.
I share this because I think often part of our preferred love language comes from our upbringing and environment. I don’t believe it’s hardwired per se and we can become equally strong in the other areas.
The five:
Words of Affirmation
Acts of Service
Receiving Gifts
Quality Time
Physical Touch
I personally like the description of the five love languages. I find myself being someone who primarily expresses through physical touch and I struggle with words of affirmation. The latter stems from the fact that I do not view myself as either ugly or handsome, I simply am. I don’t value my physical traits as highly as I do my mental traits. When I am dating, I sell my personality long before I sell my physical attributes which often results in confusion.
As multiple friends have pointed out and stated. I am the type of nerd guy who has no idea that he is attractive because he wasn’t the type of guy girls went after in high school. I never learned that I am a pretty handsome guy so that is something I am still trying to understand. I sell myself short constantly and so receiving compliments on my looks and giving compliments on physical appearances feels unnatural to me which causes me to blush in rather embarrassing manner. According to them, it is something that girls either find endearing about me or maddening.
I share this because I think often part of our preferred love language comes from our upbringing and environment. I don’t believe it’s hardwired per se and we can become equally strong in the other areas.