Question on Dreams (Tactile Dream Cuddle)

[Fruiteloop]

In my dreams I almost never know what I am doing in a conscious way.

I can tell what I am not dreaming just by the brightness of the room, my dreams are always dark.

So last night I had two things happen.

In a crowed area of a store in a mall with people looking at a display presentation (remember this is in the dark) someone held me from behind I could feel then and we started to hug each other. The hug felt real. tactile. I was engaging in it with this person but never saw her face, it was dark. like dream sex, not exactly.

The second part I was fighting with my brother and it felt real like I was holding him and he was forcing against me angry and wanting to hurt me. I do not remember how I got away but it was when I told my sister he needed to stop it.

As always more stuff happened in my dream last night over an hours worth of stuff but it was not as real to me as the two events above where we made physical contact in the dream.

Questions:

Is it normal to touch things in dreams?

Does this make them real in the sense that we cannot tell we are dreaming if it happens?

Is there reasons I had these dreams: one about fighting, the other about loving?

 

[SlowUpTake]

were the "others" in the sensorial parts of the dream both male? In a jungian sense one could represent your anima/animus and the other your shadow.....or they could both be both. Generally when dreams have a visceral feel that lingers upon awakening it signals unconscious content on the verge of consciousness. all of the imagery is symbolic and rarely is directly correlated to waking life individuals, more like distorted aspects of those relationships....our shadows are filled with the things we have repressed...the repression happens for a host of reasons but mainly from our awkward attempts to fit into our social settings and society at large. Lots of the repressed stuff is super valuable and while it may not have been useful when we are children it may be fulfilling to us as adults. thinking and talking about it, making associations with the images and mulling it is the best way to integrate them.

 

[Fruiteloop]

I thought about it and yes it could be my anima was whom I was interacting with and my shadow was whom I was fighting.

The female part of myself has this feeling to it I cannot describe as other than love.

The shadow part no other than anger.

If then it be about integrating the shadow as such I need to be less angry?

In real life I have no person who I love on a personal level.

I do believe that socially I am angry I do not fit in, I try but often fail to fit in.

Not because I cannot do what I need to do in my social circle but because of past anger I never seem to get rid of it.

I have things I needed to say to people I never get to say in the past and that makes present relationships not what they could be.

If that is the source of repression then its a big barrier for me since I always felt I needed to not say anything about my dissatisfaction with some things I felt unfair or just wrong. Life can punish you if you speak up.

Anger also I guess comes from fear and most my life that has been the case because of reasons I will not go into at the moment.

I may also say that sadness is hard to feel because of the anger and I try not to feel sad because I had not way of making it better.

If I was sad nothing could be done about it. So I suppressed it. Like many emotions I have.

Love just seems to be there but for some reason its comes from places other than real life. Movies or such things where I saw it happen.