Hey everyone,
My name is Xavier. I’m a senior in college.
If you have time, it'd be awesome if you could help me out with figuring out my typology.
I'm thinking that I may be something along the lines INFP, but some things don't fit. INFPs tend to be joyful, tender people; I am more dark and edgy, falling prey to dark emotions caused by my own thoughts as well as various external factions such as relationships (especially with family). These cause internal conflict.
I'm pretty sure about being an introvert, but that's about all I'm sure of. I may be some sort of weird hybrid like INFJ/ISFP or INFP/ISFJ, or maybe even something with T.
About Me
Before I start comparing myself to any particular type, I should tell you about myself.
1.I do not like social situations. I am a loner. I like to either be by myself, or spent time with one person I like.
2.I am a dark individual. That is, I seem to have a lot of negative emotions. I am constantly angry and rather uptight. I am often called a spaz, and people often tell me to “chill out”. I do not smile near as much as the average person.
3.I worry a lot. This ties into what I just said. I worry about pretty much everything including the future (it can get very irrational). Because of my worrying, I am often anxious and it is not easy for me to just relax.
4.I don’t have fun much. Sure fun is…fun. But a lot of fun things involve social interaction, which I want to avoid. Plus, I feel like many fun things don’t have much purpose. For instance, I like video games, but I don’t play them because I don’t think they help me grow as an individual, nor does it serve any sort of practical purpose.
5. I like to fix things. I don't mean in the physical sense. I mean that if I feel like something is not right, I have a desire to make it right. I also like the sense of accomplishment that goes with it.
6. I don't work well with noise. Generally, I need quietness to do my work. If there's noise, I view it as an annoyance and I try to find another place to work. So, I get distracted in the sense that the noise inhibits me, but I don't get distracted in the sense that I want to join in with what's going on around me.
7: I am a person of action. Passivity isn't good in my opinion. When I have a passion, I like to follow through and do something with it.
8.I am indecisive. I have trouble coming to a firm decision quickly when there are so many things to consider. I often turn things over and over in my mind, even though I don't want to.
9. I am not confident. I have a need to feel validated. When I'm thinking something, I need to make sure I'm thinking the "right" thing by trying to validate it, usually by asking someone or getting more information.
10: I like resolution. That is, I want everything to be wrapped up. I tend to continue speculating about things (as I said, I am indecisive), but what I want is to be done with it. If it doesn't seem like a matter is resolved, it is harder to feel at ease.
11.I try to discern people’s thoughts. This is mostly in relation to how others view me. I constantly try to figure out if people really are telling the truth or if they see me in a positive way. I feel very uncomfortable being around people when I think they are thinking something negative about me. This is one reason I avoid social things.
12.I have a good work ethic. When I have something to do, I work at it. I do my best work when it’s something I am interested in. I am very much against laziness.
13.I care about things. That is, I don’t have a “whatever” attitude. I usually have a preference for anything having to do with me (i.e. where I sit, what color my room should be painted, what movie I want to watch, etc.)
14.I believe in perseverance. When I get tired of doing something, I still keep going, especially if it is something I care strongly about. I hate the idea of giving up. One of my weaknesses is that I keep going when I really should stop.
15.I am not good at letting go. If there is an unresolved issue with a family member, I think about it constantly and it really affects me. I will not usually let it go, so the thoughts and feelings persist until there is some kind of resolution. A sincere apology goes a long way with me.
16.I like thinking of stories. This is one thing I really get into. I especially like creating characters in the stories.
17.I am not a random thinker. I have no idea if I seem like a random thinker to other people, but I am not one. I usually think about one subject for a long time (and all kinds of different angles), and it becomes somewhat circular thinking. Because I am not a random thinker, it takes a while to brainstorm new stories.
18. I have a thin skin. I am easily offended when people say something that I take personally, and then I make it my goal to figure out why they said what they did. Sometimes they say it is over, but I drag it on because I don't feel like we really have reached a resolution.
19. Aesthetics matter to me. At least, they do on some level, to some extent. I'm OK with being around things that don't look great, but it still matters to me. For example, I don't mind living in my unfurnished dorm room, but I would prefer if it looked better, and I can tell when it looks terrible (though there are certainly people who are much better at this).
20. I am uncomfortable in new situations. Even though I do want adventure in my life, I feel uncomfortable in new situations. I don't adapt very well.
21. I am not good at remembering facts. I can usually remember some sort of general idea, but overall I am terrible at remembering things, which makes school difficult. I also usually tend to remember the negative more than the good.
22. I get impatient. I get annoyed when people in front of me walk slow, so I usually just pass them if I can. I also hate waiting for a long time if there is nothing to do. I hate feeling like I'm getting nothing done at all.
23. I'm not a money spender. There isn't a whole lot of material things I want, but even if there is, I prefer not to spend money. It isn't that I value money so much; I think it's more that I believe that the money should be saved for what I need.
Anticipated Questions
Q: “So are you a daydreamer?”
A: That’s a tough one, mostly because it’s hard to distinguish what should be considered daydreaming, and because I don’t know what to compare it to since I am not in other people’s head. Like I said, I do think of stories from time to time.
If I’m in class and I am not very interested in what is being said, I will often start focusing on something else that has nothing to do with the lecture; however, I still try to stay focused if it is something I think I need to know, which it usually is. If it’s a class with a lot of note-taking, I will usually concentrate on that and avoid drifting off. Anyway, all that to say I can’t really figure out if I am a daydreamer unless there is some way I can measure it.
Q: “Do you live in the moment?”
A: I would actually say No to that. The reason I say no is because I worry about how things will turn out, so I do excessive caution and consider how things will turn out. Like I explained before, I often worry about improbable outcomes. Plus, usually when people think of someone living in the moment, they think of someone who just wants to have fun, go to parties, and stuff along those lines. I can say with certainty that that does not sound like me at all.
On the flipside, I can get caught up in the emotion of the moment. What this usually means is lashing out emotionally at others. I can be very aggressive at times. I always end up regretting it and asking myself why I did it.
Q: "Do you like doing more physical activities, or are you more of a sit down at a desk person?"
A: Well that's a good question. As far as how I live my life, I do not do many physical activities. Never really have. I lift weights, and I walk to class back and forth, but not much more than that. So, it could definitely be said that I sit down at a desk more than doing physical activities.
The thing is, I think there is more to consider. Remember, I said I normally don't do things just for the sake of fun. There hasn't been a whole lot of moments in my life where I had to do more physical things. Sports was always an option, but I never gave that much thought for some reason.
So, if my life was different-- if there was a real purpose for doing more physical activities, it is possible that I'd do more physical activities in my life. With my life the way it is, I think it's hard to judge whether I am or not.
OK, so...
By now you’re probably thinking that I seem more INFJ, right? Well, I could be, but like I said before, It seems like I’m more Fi-Ne than Ni-Fe.
I am not as decisive as INFJs seem to be. They can just go "this seems best, so let's take this and run with it." I don't do that.
Also, INFJs seem to be suggesting that they don't really pay too much attention to their own feelings, but are sensitive to the feelings of others.
I believe I do pay attention to my feelings. I am very sensitive to what another person is feeling or thinking, but it is mostly about how it relates to me. I know it sounds selfish, but this seems to be how it is. I worry about how they view me, and when I see someone is upset and find out it has nothing to do with me, I am relieved.
This stuff is so interesting, but so confusing if you look at it in depth.
I’m freaking out right now. There seems to be so many things that contradict each other! I really don’t know what to think. That’s why I’ve made this thread. Hopefully someone can shed some light on the situation.
At this point, I could be almost any type. I’m serious.
So…if you could…look at the things I’ve said and provide answers or comments about them. What is the impression you got? What type am I? Remember, I'm not even convinced I am INFx. Could I be T? S? Or even slightly E??
I would very much appreciate any help you could possibly give me. Any comments would be great. Also ask questions if you don’t get something I said, or if you want to know something else about me.
My name is Xavier. I’m a senior in college.
If you have time, it'd be awesome if you could help me out with figuring out my typology.
I'm thinking that I may be something along the lines INFP, but some things don't fit. INFPs tend to be joyful, tender people; I am more dark and edgy, falling prey to dark emotions caused by my own thoughts as well as various external factions such as relationships (especially with family). These cause internal conflict.
I'm pretty sure about being an introvert, but that's about all I'm sure of. I may be some sort of weird hybrid like INFJ/ISFP or INFP/ISFJ, or maybe even something with T.
About Me
Before I start comparing myself to any particular type, I should tell you about myself.
1.I do not like social situations. I am a loner. I like to either be by myself, or spent time with one person I like.
2.I am a dark individual. That is, I seem to have a lot of negative emotions. I am constantly angry and rather uptight. I am often called a spaz, and people often tell me to “chill out”. I do not smile near as much as the average person.
3.I worry a lot. This ties into what I just said. I worry about pretty much everything including the future (it can get very irrational). Because of my worrying, I am often anxious and it is not easy for me to just relax.
4.I don’t have fun much. Sure fun is…fun. But a lot of fun things involve social interaction, which I want to avoid. Plus, I feel like many fun things don’t have much purpose. For instance, I like video games, but I don’t play them because I don’t think they help me grow as an individual, nor does it serve any sort of practical purpose.
5. I like to fix things. I don't mean in the physical sense. I mean that if I feel like something is not right, I have a desire to make it right. I also like the sense of accomplishment that goes with it.
6. I don't work well with noise. Generally, I need quietness to do my work. If there's noise, I view it as an annoyance and I try to find another place to work. So, I get distracted in the sense that the noise inhibits me, but I don't get distracted in the sense that I want to join in with what's going on around me.
7: I am a person of action. Passivity isn't good in my opinion. When I have a passion, I like to follow through and do something with it.
8.I am indecisive. I have trouble coming to a firm decision quickly when there are so many things to consider. I often turn things over and over in my mind, even though I don't want to.
9. I am not confident. I have a need to feel validated. When I'm thinking something, I need to make sure I'm thinking the "right" thing by trying to validate it, usually by asking someone or getting more information.
10: I like resolution. That is, I want everything to be wrapped up. I tend to continue speculating about things (as I said, I am indecisive), but what I want is to be done with it. If it doesn't seem like a matter is resolved, it is harder to feel at ease.
11.I try to discern people’s thoughts. This is mostly in relation to how others view me. I constantly try to figure out if people really are telling the truth or if they see me in a positive way. I feel very uncomfortable being around people when I think they are thinking something negative about me. This is one reason I avoid social things.
12.I have a good work ethic. When I have something to do, I work at it. I do my best work when it’s something I am interested in. I am very much against laziness.
13.I care about things. That is, I don’t have a “whatever” attitude. I usually have a preference for anything having to do with me (i.e. where I sit, what color my room should be painted, what movie I want to watch, etc.)
14.I believe in perseverance. When I get tired of doing something, I still keep going, especially if it is something I care strongly about. I hate the idea of giving up. One of my weaknesses is that I keep going when I really should stop.
15.I am not good at letting go. If there is an unresolved issue with a family member, I think about it constantly and it really affects me. I will not usually let it go, so the thoughts and feelings persist until there is some kind of resolution. A sincere apology goes a long way with me.
16.I like thinking of stories. This is one thing I really get into. I especially like creating characters in the stories.
17.I am not a random thinker. I have no idea if I seem like a random thinker to other people, but I am not one. I usually think about one subject for a long time (and all kinds of different angles), and it becomes somewhat circular thinking. Because I am not a random thinker, it takes a while to brainstorm new stories.
18. I have a thin skin. I am easily offended when people say something that I take personally, and then I make it my goal to figure out why they said what they did. Sometimes they say it is over, but I drag it on because I don't feel like we really have reached a resolution.
19. Aesthetics matter to me. At least, they do on some level, to some extent. I'm OK with being around things that don't look great, but it still matters to me. For example, I don't mind living in my unfurnished dorm room, but I would prefer if it looked better, and I can tell when it looks terrible (though there are certainly people who are much better at this).
20. I am uncomfortable in new situations. Even though I do want adventure in my life, I feel uncomfortable in new situations. I don't adapt very well.
21. I am not good at remembering facts. I can usually remember some sort of general idea, but overall I am terrible at remembering things, which makes school difficult. I also usually tend to remember the negative more than the good.
22. I get impatient. I get annoyed when people in front of me walk slow, so I usually just pass them if I can. I also hate waiting for a long time if there is nothing to do. I hate feeling like I'm getting nothing done at all.
23. I'm not a money spender. There isn't a whole lot of material things I want, but even if there is, I prefer not to spend money. It isn't that I value money so much; I think it's more that I believe that the money should be saved for what I need.
Anticipated Questions
Q: “So are you a daydreamer?”
A: That’s a tough one, mostly because it’s hard to distinguish what should be considered daydreaming, and because I don’t know what to compare it to since I am not in other people’s head. Like I said, I do think of stories from time to time.
If I’m in class and I am not very interested in what is being said, I will often start focusing on something else that has nothing to do with the lecture; however, I still try to stay focused if it is something I think I need to know, which it usually is. If it’s a class with a lot of note-taking, I will usually concentrate on that and avoid drifting off. Anyway, all that to say I can’t really figure out if I am a daydreamer unless there is some way I can measure it.
Q: “Do you live in the moment?”
A: I would actually say No to that. The reason I say no is because I worry about how things will turn out, so I do excessive caution and consider how things will turn out. Like I explained before, I often worry about improbable outcomes. Plus, usually when people think of someone living in the moment, they think of someone who just wants to have fun, go to parties, and stuff along those lines. I can say with certainty that that does not sound like me at all.
On the flipside, I can get caught up in the emotion of the moment. What this usually means is lashing out emotionally at others. I can be very aggressive at times. I always end up regretting it and asking myself why I did it.
Q: "Do you like doing more physical activities, or are you more of a sit down at a desk person?"
A: Well that's a good question. As far as how I live my life, I do not do many physical activities. Never really have. I lift weights, and I walk to class back and forth, but not much more than that. So, it could definitely be said that I sit down at a desk more than doing physical activities.
The thing is, I think there is more to consider. Remember, I said I normally don't do things just for the sake of fun. There hasn't been a whole lot of moments in my life where I had to do more physical things. Sports was always an option, but I never gave that much thought for some reason.
So, if my life was different-- if there was a real purpose for doing more physical activities, it is possible that I'd do more physical activities in my life. With my life the way it is, I think it's hard to judge whether I am or not.
OK, so...
By now you’re probably thinking that I seem more INFJ, right? Well, I could be, but like I said before, It seems like I’m more Fi-Ne than Ni-Fe.
I am not as decisive as INFJs seem to be. They can just go "this seems best, so let's take this and run with it." I don't do that.
Also, INFJs seem to be suggesting that they don't really pay too much attention to their own feelings, but are sensitive to the feelings of others.
I believe I do pay attention to my feelings. I am very sensitive to what another person is feeling or thinking, but it is mostly about how it relates to me. I know it sounds selfish, but this seems to be how it is. I worry about how they view me, and when I see someone is upset and find out it has nothing to do with me, I am relieved.
This stuff is so interesting, but so confusing if you look at it in depth.
I’m freaking out right now. There seems to be so many things that contradict each other! I really don’t know what to think. That’s why I’ve made this thread. Hopefully someone can shed some light on the situation.
At this point, I could be almost any type. I’m serious.
So…if you could…look at the things I’ve said and provide answers or comments about them. What is the impression you got? What type am I? Remember, I'm not even convinced I am INFx. Could I be T? S? Or even slightly E??
I would very much appreciate any help you could possibly give me. Any comments would be great. Also ask questions if you don’t get something I said, or if you want to know something else about me.
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