So theres this girl....

Even though you dscribe her as ....not unattractive , but not attractive.... I feel like this meands she is ugly. And if that is a problem for you then dont date her. Mind you I am very drink right now. So maybe I will change my mind or have good advice for tyou then. I dont know if I have eneven given you adivece yet.

 

If you enjoy spending time with her let that be the main focus. If things happen they'll happen for now just enjoy the ride.

No need to really decide as if it's a switch to be turned on or off.

 

Hmm I find this strange, I think you are making it problematic by separating physical and mental attraction. Usually if you fall inlove with the personality so to say then it takes over and outnumbers the physical attraction. Like if you fall for the personality then this will become the physical attraction as well, sort of unseparable. It should be a whole

 

Dragon, I'm assuming you're pretty young...and although I understand the superficiality of wanting the model girl with the model looks (and I know your struggles with it), I think you'll end up in a stronger relationship with someone you'd deem "less than pretty". Why? Because your heart will be making the decision for you instead of your mind. Finding both is possible but as you get older you'll discover things that are less important to you. You won't care what she looks like as much because that becomes less important.

You'll start caring about *her.*

Anyway. Good luck in your search - and I hope you can reconcile your feelings if this new girl turns out to be "the one."

 

i concur with arbygil...

 

Like you said, it's malleable. I read in a study somewhere that the more you grow attracted to someone, the less you focus on their physical appearance. They actually become more attractive in your eyes.

Perhaps you should see if she is open to a relationship, but at the same time I wouldn't risk getting involved with her if you can't get over her lack of physical attractiveness, it may get in the way.

 

I think maybe you will begin to find her physically attractive if you date her and get to know her beautiful personality even more... I dated a guy I was not physically attracted to at all, but who I thought had a great personality and brilliant mind..and I found those things very intriguing. I found myself as time went on really attracted to him physically anyway... but hey. That's just me.

Well, if you're interested in her then.. you're interested in her! What's the difference? I don't really get the dilemma...You are into good lookin' womenz and here you find yourself quite taken with a plain woman who possesses an attractive personality. I'd say see if she wants to date you and then date her. It's not like you have to marry her for godsake.

 

If it's about relationships at it's core are feelings, how do you truly feel about it?

Perhaps you don't fully know, does anyone fully understand?

Being one of the strongest intuitors could you use your strength and let it guide your way or atleast guide you to more personal truth?

 

I'd say just go for it.

This is based off everything you've said.

 

Go for it.

You gotta take every opportunity you can get to find love.

Trust me, it doesn't get easier as you get older.

 

Well if all else fails, by all else I mean that hyperintutive, hyperanalytical, hyperheadache thing. Just try it, so your confused why not just experiment.

 

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Personally, I feel like there is no real difference whether or not she's attractive or not. You love her personality, you're attracted to her either way. So let it go that way. I know you might be buggered out by it, but with how much you like her even now, I think that won't be an issue later. Personally, I feel like it's way harder to find someone with a beautiful personality and inner self than someone who is "good looking" outwardly. I am the type that falls heads over heels when there's someone with this charismatic, amazing personality. Just follow your heart.

 

OOhhhh man. Nodody told you to marry her. RELAX. It's not as if you're making a monumental decision about the future of the universe. Just take it easy. If you like her personality, then why the hell not go for it. Just be honest and that's all, and if it doesn't work, you just break up(and get hurt). What part of it sounds strange?

And I have an absolute truth for you. Ready?

Quoting Kung Fu Panda: There is no secret ingredient. And noone is a good judge at this sort of thing, even if they tell you they are. Every relationship is different and there is no golden recipe. So just be yourself.

In the end, it's better to regret about something you did, than something you didn't do.

 

Ohhh I don't no about that I have done some stupid things and not done dome awesome things they both suck.

 

Desperation shouldn't be your motivator. That precipitates all kinds of fear responses, and you may "force" yourself to like her. If you're not sure about her personality, get to know her better before dating. Maybe she was just nervous and it's a false alarm. Maybe it's your intuition warning you. Something to think about.

My $0.02 Canadian for what it's worth - which is surprisingly little considering the current exchange rate.