Snapping | INFJ Forum

Snapping

Discussion in 'The INFJ Typology' started by Silently Honest, Sep 20, 2008.

Share This Page

Watchers:
This thread is being watched by 7 users.
More threads by Silently Honest
  1. Silently Honest

    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    May 12, 2008
    Threads:
    97
    Messages:
    5,464
    Likes Received:
    141
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    YANG
    We seem more prone to it then other types. These short burst of wrath usually only show themselves when someone looks for them IMO. Everytime I've done it, I'm usaully trying to restrain it, but party two always does something to dig a even bigger grave for him/herself.


    I'll admit though I sure feel better after doing it.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  2. Lurker

    Lurker Has nothing to destroy
    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    May 23, 2008
    Threads:
    78
    Messages:
    4,253
    Likes Received:
    165
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    Enneagram:
    Is there anything party two can do, besides walk away, that wouldn't do this. I ask cause when someone snaps they are usually completely justified in their mind at that time as to their action and it seems to me whatever the other person does will generally infuriate them more.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  3. OP
    Silently Honest

    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    May 12, 2008
    Threads:
    97
    Messages:
    5,464
    Likes Received:
    141
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    YANG
    Not really. If someone believes the are completly justified in doing something, and your playing the opposition to it, then it's best to give them room, once you push someone to that point, the only way to keep from pushing them over is to leave them alone, and give them time. Sometimes you need time to figure things out on your own you know?
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  4. OP
    Silently Honest

    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    May 12, 2008
    Threads:
    97
    Messages:
    5,464
    Likes Received:
    141
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    YANG
    Why did you die so prematurily? *Holds threads corpse in hands*
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  5. alcyone

    Donor

    Joined:
    Jul 27, 2008
    Threads:
    33
    Messages:
    2,306
    Likes Received:
    109
    Trophy Points:
    210
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Enneagram:
    WTF
    I really love it when party 2 decides to follow me in an attempt to continue the discussion. If I leave the scene before a temper eruption in an attempt to cool down, and I am followed... I think at that point I am justified.
     
  6. BlackCat

    Joined:
    Sep 28, 2008
    Threads:
    1
    Messages:
    2
    Likes Received:
    0
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFP
    All you need is some reassurance, then you will cool off. If someone sees when you are about to snap, then they can know when to try to cool you off. I think it takes an NF to see this.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  7. Vex

    Vex Community Member

    Joined:
    Sep 26, 2008
    Threads:
    8
    Messages:
    129
    Likes Received:
    13
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Enneagram:
    99999
    I'm prone to short outburst of anger which surprises many because I'm always the reserved negotiator who is dead calm in every situation. I usually snap when I find something unfair and I think I absorb everything and turn it inwards instead of becoming irritated, but what goes in must go out sooner or later. :smile:
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  8. firehotemily

    firehotemily Community Member

    Joined:
    Feb 16, 2009
    Threads:
    8
    Messages:
    150
    Likes Received:
    3
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    this is exactly how i am....
    but the thing is that it's not a positive quality, and so i'm trying to improve it...the thing is...i can't seem to stop
    why? T.T
    i'm lowering my stress levels...is it maybe because i don't trust others and it's a defense or something?
    or is it because i was hurt by people, and again use this as a defense?
    i really would like to stop...it's hurting my relationship with my family.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  9. Pristinegirl

    Pristinegirl Well-known member

    Joined:
    Jan 6, 2009
    Threads:
    36
    Messages:
    3,085
    Likes Received:
    127
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    ANFP
    THIS IS EXACTLY THE SAME FOR ME haha. Especially with my mom and she always goes stop snapping at me, which makes me even more aggtated. I try to control myself from doing it but it usually blows up in the end haha.

    Like Emily though; I am lowering my stress levels in an attempt to increase my overall mental health. :)
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  10. TK*

    TK* Community Member

    Joined:
    Oct 8, 2008
    Threads:
    14
    Messages:
    842
    Likes Received:
    25
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    I used to be really bad about "snapping." I literally would black out and just beat the shit out of the other person. The last time I violently snapped I took a pool stick to some dude's face at a party...I don't even remember doing it or why. All I remember was him trying to push me on a pool table, maybe flirting, and I snapped. I was 14, he was 16.

    When I snap, it's like, an eruption I can't control. In a way, it was such a relief to fight. I didn't have to hold anything in anymore, I could just let go. But at the same time, once I came back to myself, I would be so frightened! Sometimes I would want to KILL the other person! In that moment with my fists or object, I would feel a twinge of enjoyment from hurting the person. But I knew that wasn't me, the real me was opposed to violence. It conflicted me for years before I learned how to deal with my suppressed rage issues. Too bad I hate sports--my brother gets all his rage out by playing football, wrestling, and rugby! :p

    I still "snap" but never with my fists anymore. I usually step away when I feel myself getting too angry--when party two refuses to let me leave I either explode or implode. Imploding seems to scare people more than exploding, lol.

    Hell hath no fury like INFJ wrath.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  11. Black Swan

    Black Swan Community Member

    Joined:
    Sep 28, 2008
    Threads:
    18
    Messages:
    456
    Likes Received:
    41
    Trophy Points:
    175
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Hmm... I think for myself, the outbursts were more maturity related. Now, it takes a lot for me to reach the point of not being able to control my words and actions. Someone would have to purposely try to hurt me or someone I loved to have me flip out on them. I can't remember the last "outburst" I had, probably when I was a teenager.

    But, my very sensitive daughter will be going into school soon, and I'm sure that will test my self-restraint. :boxing:
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  12. Entyqua

    Entyqua Forgotten
    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    Jul 11, 2008
    Threads:
    280
    Messages:
    10,016
    Likes Received:
    533
    Trophy Points:
    755
    MBTI:
    INF
    Enneagram:
    messed up
    I snap constantly...Its really easy to frustrate me when I am frustrated with being sick all the time though...:m192:
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  13. Satya

    Satya C'est la vie
    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    May 11, 2008
    Threads:
    540
    Messages:
    7,284
    Likes Received:
    549
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INXP
    Me? Snap? Never! :m122:
     
  14. the

    the Si master race.
    Banned

    Joined:
    Feb 17, 2009
    Threads:
    479
    Messages:
    14,392
    Featured Threads:
    9
    Likes Received:
    8,780
    Trophy Points:
    1,112
    MBTI:
    ISTJ
    Enneagram:
    9w1
    I don't think I have ever had someone snap on me, I guess I could have snapped maybe once in the past 10 years. But I have some self control so nothing came of it.

    Usually when people are getting to that point of snapping, maybe I am good at diffusing them ... although if you knew me you'd probably guess that I would be just pushing them further and further
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  15. IndigoSensor

    IndigoSensor Product Obtained
    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    Nov 12, 2008
    Threads:
    762
    Messages:
    14,154
    Likes Received:
    1,297
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFJ
    Enneagram:
    1w2 sx/so/sp
    I have like... no temper at all. I will get annoyed and frusterated with people, but I never snap at them. I don't think I ever have either.
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  16. just me

    just me GONE

    Joined:
    Feb 8, 2009
    Threads:
    220
    Messages:
    12,403
    Featured Threads:
    19
    Likes Received:
    7,496
    Trophy Points:
    1,121
    Gender:
    Male
    Location:
    not here
    MBTI:
    infj
    Enneagram:
    6w5
    What defines self-control?
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  17. OP
    Silently Honest

    Retired Staff

    Joined:
    May 12, 2008
    Threads:
    97
    Messages:
    5,464
    Likes Received:
    141
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    YANG
    .
     
    Stop hovering to collapse... Click to collapse... Hover to expand... Click to expand...
  18. acd

    acd Well-known member

    Joined:
    Jan 11, 2009
    Threads:
    143
    Messages:
    15,136
    Featured Threads:
    11
    Likes Received:
    33,460
    Trophy Points:
    1,377
    MBTI:
    infp
    Enneagram:
    9w8 sp/sx
    When I snap I feel awful afterwards, worse than when I was trying to restrain my rage. There is no catharsis after the episode.

    I don't think there is any excuse or reason or justification to snap.
    We are all responsible to control our own lives and thoughts to avoid hurting other people.
     
  19. mayflow

    Banned

    Joined:
    May 26, 2008
    Threads:
    71
    Messages:
    783
    Likes Received:
    16
    Trophy Points:
    0
    MBTI:
    INFP
    I don't really snap because I never draw the string too tight. Do you see what I mean?
    If rage comes into the mind, then the awareness of the mind can think "from whenceforth cometh this rage?" and so rearrange itself as to create a greater internal balance.
     
  20. acd

    acd Well-known member

    Joined:
    Jan 11, 2009
    Threads:
    143
    Messages:
    15,136
    Featured Threads:
    11
    Likes Received:
    33,460
    Trophy Points:
    1,377
    MBTI:
    infp
    Enneagram:
    9w8 sp/sx
    I work to do the same and I am usually successful--just sort of let the circumstance float by, step outside of my body and ego and watch the event and contemplate and choose my reaction..

    I don't get angry over something that someone says or does to me, it's usually me who unintentionally enrages the other person, and then I'm left with the idea that I need to defend myself, and that's where one falls into the trap of snapping. It's all a trap of the ego.

    I snapped a lot when I was a teenager, mostly. Very bad acid tongued snapping, (I've always been too squeamish for the physical stuff.)
    Nowadays as I am older, I flee. And don't return for days. Maybe that's not much better though..
     

Share This Page